Post # 1
Hi bees! I am a bit stressed about my desire for a bachelorette weekend. Background- Wedding is Nov 7, Bachelorette penciled for end of September. Right now the rough plans are to head to Virginia beach for a long weekend away, spending the days at the beach with Friday night in gabbing, stuffing our faces and watching movies (aka the ‘rest’ night from the drive and because we’re old :p ). Saturday night I’d like to get glammed up and head out to a bar or similar location- the traditional night out with my best girls wearing a silly veil and sash. Nothing super crazy (those college drinking days are long gone!). Sunday we stop for a yummy brunch before heading back home. Because..brunch 🙂
My worry is that a few people have kids/will have small kids and we’re all in our 30’s and that some may think this is too much for this age. I understand those with small children may not be able to make it, and that’s is totally understandable. But am I asking too much for a weekend away? Should I stay more local (DC) and just do a day thing or dinner? Part of me wants to make sure everyone is happy, but part of me is saying, “this is my only bachelorette, I’d like to get a little crazy!”
Anyone else experience this? Thoughts? Am I silly or realistic? I just want to have fun with my best girls making memories before I tie the knot 🙂
Thank you for your help lovely bees!
Post # 2
Honestly, I find bachelorette weekends/destination parties a bit much. Since when did they becone this huge production? What’s wrong with just going out for one night?
Honestly, if my friend wanted me to take a trip for an entire weekend for their bachelorette party I would be internally rolling my eyes and I’d have to consider pretty hard if I wanted to go. Sorry if that’s not what you want to hear.
Post # 3
Since it doesn’t require a flight, I’m more inclined to say that it’s fine. I wouldn’t mind taking a 3 hour trip to have a little getaway weekend.
I will say that you need to come to VB during the summer if you want to have a good time. The bars/clubs are dead after the season ends and it’s a bit boring. I live here so I know what it’s like throughout the year. The hotels will be a bit more expensive but the atmosphere is much better during the in-season.
Post # 4
this sounds like so much fun! And I like that you are doing a clean good time with your girls. Just be open with everyone now and talk to your friends about your plans. See how many people would be able to make it, and then decide if you’re gonna proceed with your idea. Just in case many people can’t do it, have a plan B on hand.
Post # 5
I would have trouble trying to get away for a whole weekend and I don’t even have kids! I think it’s too much. I would choose one thing you really want to do – a movie night, a girl’s night out or a brunch and go for that. You can always ask your friends to do a weekend trip but not make it your bachelorette party. That would take away the pressure to attend and the obligation to pay for everything for you.
Post # 6
I know what you mean – for my birthday I want to go out dancing because let’s face it, we don’t go out much at all…. and honestly are rather comfy at home with guilty pleasures like Netflix. Once in a while, though, it’s fun to get glammed up and feel the sparkle a little.
If you have friends who are pencilled in for the weekend away, then I don’t see that you’re being silly at all. It sounds like a great itinerary (and a good excuse for a girly weekend away!). At the same time, I can also see why it could be difficult or asking too much for some people
In short, you and your organiser need to be on the same page about the sort of thing you want and then take the temperature of the friends you want to be there. If it turns out that it would be too much for the majority of people you want there, then perhaps reconsider your plans.
Post # 7
That’s way too much I’m afraid.
Post # 8
I agree that bachelorette weekends are a bit much. I’m also a bit confused about who’s planning it: is the weekend trip your idea or their idea? If it’s your idea, I’d definitely ease off. If it’s their idea and they seem enthusiastic, then let them do this for you.
Post # 9
Shortqtpie: I think your friends with children will most likely decline since it is inconvenient. However, I don’t think it is much to ask for someone who does not have kids.
You should probably reconsider VB if you plan on going in the fall. Like the previous poster mentioned, the area will be a little dead. DC will have a lot of people all year round so it might be a little more fun.
Post # 10
Totally depends on you and your friends. I have a few friends that are the type to plan girls vacations. So we’d probably make one a small bachelorette party. Now my friends don’t have kids or they do and have issue leaving them for a few days.
Now if you have friends that it’s like pulling teeth to get a group together to go to Applebee’s, then a girls weekend will probably me more stress then it’s worth.
Post # 11
@IzzyBear: Good to know, I thought the last couple weekends in September would still be ok, not quite as busy.
@AlwaysSunny: I’m seriously considering this. Maybe a girls night in after nice dinner out?
@dances123: The bachelorette party beach weekend was my and a bridesmaids idea (she and I go to VB frequently and love it).
@dojx: I’m hoping end of September will still be warm enough to enjoy the last of summer (heck early October here can still be warm!)
@CountingSheep- yes! I’m mostly a homebody and those party hard days are over, but I still want a night out to celebrate, even if we go out for a couple hours and decide to return home and eat ice cream and netflix instead 🙂
Thank you guys for your input so far, it’s giving me a lot to think about! I don’t want to make it seem like I want a big production or anything huge. Maybe even one night at the beach would be good. I don’t know!
Post # 12
EDubbs: YES- some are grumbling that are super homebodies, some are total party goers. I’m more of a homebody these days but I would still like a night out with everyone, ya know? It’s hard to please everyone I suppose.
Post # 13
I think you can go ahead with your plans (3 hours is not terribly far) and be flexible with your friends. If some of them want to sit out of some of the activities, be gracious.
Also consider what it may cost for your friends to cover your costs for an entire weekend. While its not necessary, most groups will do this for the bride.
Either way, you’ll never please everyone.. So don’t rip your hair out trying!
Post # 14
Shortqtpie: it’s a bit much for some people of course. Why don’t you compromise and go to the eastern shore? Might be a bit easier for people to come for even just part of the weekend
Post # 15
Shortqtpie: the weather is still good towards the end of September, it’s just that the oceanfront isn’t as “hopping” (for lack of better word) as it will be in the summer. But if you’re fine with that, then it won’t be a problem for you.