Post # 1
Hi- Due to some unforeseen circumstances, my bridesmaids will not be able to attend the bachelorette that my MoH was planning (will be in different locations or jobless). Some of my other friends have shown strong interest in the bachelorette (which is a trip since we are all spread out), as well as my MoH. I have heard of a few bridesmaids not being able to attend a bachelorette due to financial reasons, but would it be weird to have a bachelorette with most of my bridal party missing (since it is technically supposed to be hosted by the bridal party)?
Post # 2
Anyone can host a bachelorette. It’s not uncommon that all the bridesmaids live out of town and the evening is hosted by a friend.
Post # 3
A bachelorette party also doesn’t have to be a trip. I know they all live far away, but if someone hosted a party in their home that could be a lot less expensive than bars, hotels, etc. I won’t lie, I would have been super bummed if my bridal party wasn’t able to attend my bachelorette party.
Post # 4
not an option. literally everyone is in a different location (the most people in one location is 2 people).
Post # 5
Do what my friends usually do…bachelorette 2 nights before wedding. We all travel into wherever wedding is Thursday, go out that night, and then we have all Friday to help get last minute things done, go get nails done, etc. We’re all over the country too so this really helps by cutting out an extra trip
Post # 6
That also wouldnt work. In fact time is more of factor than money for some of my friends. Being my wedding is on a Friday, that would require them to take 3 days off work, instead of just a quick weekend trip (the latter being their preference).
Still waiting on more posts on this!
Post # 7
I wanted Vegas for my bachelorette party and 2 of my 3 bridesmaids couldn’t go. They encouraged me not to change plans on behalf of them, so I ended up going with my Maid/Matron of Honor and another friend! It was perfect, wouldn’t change a thing! 🙂
Post # 8
None of my (2) bridesmaids were at my bachelorette. It was still super fun and I’m so grateful for the friends who were able to attend and for my bridesmaids who made my wedding day amazing!
Post # 9
My sister lives in cali and had her wedding in her hometown of nyc. She had bridesmaids from all stages of life so they were similarly split. Nearly every wedding event was in nyc and lots of her friends couldn’t make it to, say, the shower. So she intentionally did the bach in california. West coast maids/friends went to that and east coast ones went to the shower (obviously all were invited to both). She and i were the only ones who traveled to both. I think it’s totally common and not a problem! It only matters if it will really upset you.
Post # 10
Media & Social media do a disservice by showing perfect weddings, bachelorette parties, showers, engagment parties, etc with every beloved person there and sometimes travelling the world to be in attendance. Real life isn’t this. I had to cancel my first bachelorette party because I had a serious family emergency. Last minute I was able to have a mini bach 2 weeks before the wedding but it was just the people who live in town, so only half of my wedding party and 1 other close in town friend. Your bach should be fun and and special and the whole point is to make you happy. Will it make you happy to have this bach party with the people who can be there? Yes? Then do it! Don’t compare your circumstances to the perfect standard which is impossible to achieve. My mini bach ended up being a great time, even though it was just a few friends and last minute. Would do it again.
Post # 11
i’ve been a bridesmaid in a wedding where just 3 bridesmaids (of 7) were able to make the bachelorette – we still had a ton of fun and it was nice. The other bridesmaids made it up with lunch, dinner and or drinks at later dates.
Post # 12
Only 3 of my 7 bridesmaids are coming to my bachelorette in Nashville. It’s a situation where they are all over and it would mean travel no matter where it is. There will be 4 other girls not in my bridal party attending as well. I wish they were all able to come but it’s just not reality and will be fun regardless! I’m hoping the bridal party can have some special moments with the shower and getting ready the day of.