Post # 1
So my friend is getting married and has decided on a five person wedding party, two of the people being very new (think a year) friends. In all the dress choosing drama, she has agreed to pay for the bridesmaids dresses. I wouldn’t let her pay for mine, as I think that being in a wedding party means certain commitments. Not to mention that she is not currently working. I totally get agreeing if someone really couldn’t afford it or whatever…but they all have jobs and she does not. ANYHOW, that is another discussion. In trying to plan her bachelorette the ladies are now quibbling over spending $40 each on making fancy drinks for the night. I feel like saying – “you know what, she bought your dress, can you please do something special for her?” I am just so frustrated, and don’t want to burden the bride with this so I am venting here!
Post # 2
- Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard
Say it to them! It’s part of taking on the role. If they can’t pitch in, they should bow out.
Post # 3
I wouldn’t spend $40 on drinks either, regardless if she bought my dress or not. I know you want to do something nice for the bride, but you have to plan within their means. Ask everyone their budget and go from there. I felt awful for my bridesmaids spending $50 on my bachelorette, and you can have fun for less. If you want to go above and beyond, get her a gift or something special for the party, but unfortunately you cant’ force them to spend more than they want.
Post # 3
Say it! I would. They are being extremely ungrateful.
Post # 5
I’d say something. $40 isn’t much to expect someone to pay for a bachelorette, and like you said, they’re all working. They haven’t had to put it anything for this weeding yet, and I think that agreeing to participate should involve a tacit agreement to contribute a reasonable amount.
I agree with the prior poster as well though…have you asked them what they WOULD be willing to spend?
Post # 6
What other costs will they incur the night of the party? Is it JUST drinks or will there be more? Transportation, clothing, accessories, etc. Are the drinks something they wanted to do or was it a one-person decision?