Post # 1
So my Birthday I August 2nd and my AMAZING Bridesmaids are having my Bachelorette party August 3rd. It is the only date that works for me and all of my bridesmaids. So the girls turned it to a Bachelorette and Birthday party.
I love this idea but there are people who want to come to my “Birthday party” that are not invited to the wedding. I do know that you don’t invite people to pre wedding parties that are not invited to the wedding. But I feel like this is such a sticky situation…
It is both my birthday and bachelorette party, I don’t want to make anything weird for the people who are not invited to the wedding but I feel bad if they are not invited to it because it is my birthday too…
Someone asked me why I cant just do the two on different dates when I asked them about it and If I could do that I wouldn’t be having my bachelorette party that weekend at all.
So I guess I am asking for advice how to I invite the people not invited to the wedding and it not be uncomfortable for them because it is my bachelorette party too? Or how do I not invite them without making them feel bad?
Post # 3
I would say maybe invite those birthday people to a birthday dinner then go out afterwards with just your bachelorette party people. I think my feelings would be a little hurt to see everyone celebrating your wedding that I was not invited to. But on the other hand, if you want them to go out too you can just be up front with them and tell them the reason they are not invited like, budget/guest constraints. I personally would understand then, but just to leave it unsaid would be a little awkward. But everyone is different 🙂
Post # 4
I thought about that too and talked to my bridesmaids about that but aparently they have dinner as part of the night planned in fact I am not allowed to plan anything after 3 that day. and my Maid/Matron of Honor said possibly before that.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@MsPanda: I think it might be kinda weird to have friends at your party who aren’t invited to the wedding. I’m sure you and your BMs will be talking about the wedding, right? Just seems ripe for awkwardness…
Post # 6
Have you spoke to the ones that aren’t invited to the wedding as to why? If there is a reason and they all understand it might be ok to combine both. But it could be weird so maybe consider just keeping it more bachelorette party and save the big birthday one for next year?