(Closed) Bachelorette/bridal shower – how should costs be divided?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Do you think I should: (you can choose more than 1)
    cover all of one or more of the costs/events (please say which below if you have a preference) : (3 votes)
    33 %
    subsidize some part of it (please say which below if you have a preference) : (0 votes)
    pay fully for bride's costs : (5 votes)
    56 %
    just pay my share for shower/bach & increase value of gift to the newlyweds : (1 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    10516 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I don’t think the bride should have to pay for anything.  Usually, the guests shouldn’t have to cover the bride other than some drinks.

    Everything else needs to be worked out with the bridal party.  Some people prefer to split it evenly, others prefer to cover certain things.  It depends on what people can afford.

    Post # 5
    Member
    100 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I through a BP for my sister when I was her MOH. I paid for all of the food, drinks and setup and took care of the transportation but was a little surprised when it came time to pay for dinner. We were at a nice restaurant and they would not split the check in any way… I ended up footing the entire bill, none of her friends even gave me cash to cover theirs. 

    Not only was this the first BP I’ve thrown but it was the first I have been to so I wasn’t sure if this was normal… 

    Post # 6
    Member
    8376 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    since this is a shower/bachelorette party, i think the bridal party should cover the costs of the breakfast in suite and pizza. 

    guests are not expected to pay for food at a shower.

    as a bride, i am expecting to pay my own way for my bachelorette party.  my MOH has not started planning, so i don’t know what the official plan is yet, but I plan to contribute.

     

     

    Post # 7
    Member
    10516 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2011

    @Shkragoldfish:  I’m confused, are there no bridemaids, it’s just you as MOH?

    Post # 8
    Member
    3733 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I would have everyone attending pay for a portion of the bride’s costs. You shouldn’t have to take that on by yourself unless you really want to.

    Post # 11
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    8376 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Shkragoldfish:  if all the ladies attending are ok with the costs you laid out to them, then i wouldn’t worry about any of it and go with your original plan.

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