(Closed) Bach’ette party help: 16yo bridesmaid, and BP not getting along??

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
1428 posts
Bumble bee

What about doing a "spa day" with lunch & spa treatments….when my friends & I do this it’s always soooo fun & sooooo relaxing that any "drama" is relaxed away 🙂

Post # 5
2640 posts
Sugar bee

Well I think since you have a preggy Maid/Matron of Honor and a 16yr. old you’ve figured out what you won’t be doing.  If you went to a chick flick the feuding maids won’t need to sit near each other nor talk to each other.

Post # 6
2434 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Perhaps have the party divided into more than one part- so people can participate in what they want to.  For example, spa day, then dinner, then clubbing/dancing.  The 16yo and the pregnant Bridesmaid or Best Man can opt out of the dancing portion.

Another  option might be paint your own pottery?  Pretty tame, but you could do other stuff before/after.

I think an activity- as opposed to a slumber party or general hanging out- will help to minimize the not getting along stuff.

Other options: roller skating, paint ball, museum, amusement park, sightseeing stuff (if you’re near a city), dance lessons, etc.

Post # 7
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

I’d prolly opt out of the paint ball, roller skating, and amusement park, because they’re all high risk for your preggers Maid/Matron of Honor.

My Bach party is going to be a spa day, so I have to second that!  While one group is getting their toes done the other can be getting their mani.  Plus few girls will bicker in front of the bride, they usually save the snide comments for after you leave.

Post # 8
1428 posts
Bumble bee

LMAO Sapphire….totally right!!!

Post # 9
142 posts
Blushing bee

You could always do some sort of activity where someone else is leading it, so the conversation wouldn’t be as awkward… like a fun cooking class or jewellery making class. Those could be super fun, and good for everyone.


Post # 10
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I know a girl who went to a baseball game for her bachelorette party. Not the girliest thing, but if you like sports it might be a fun way to spend some time together without having to be too awkward.

I do love the idea of a spa day. Definitely going to be a suggestion I make to my girls 🙂 

Post # 11
584 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m dealing with a very similar situation (18yo Bridesmaid or Best Man, tension between various bridesmaids – they’re not in two groups, thankfully), and I’ve just handed the whole thing over to my Maid/Matron of Honor. I told her about my various concerns, and threw some ideas at her, and she said she’d take them into account and plan something that would hopefully work… it’s been a huge weight off my shoulders.

I don’t know if your Maid/Matron of Honor would be able to do that for you, but it’s definitely worth considering… especially since this is really supposed to be a day for you – a break/fun time/celebration of your single life. For me, I wouldn’t be able to enjoy that aspect of it if I were trying to handle logistics and mediate bridesmaid drama. Good luck!

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