Post # 1
So I am planning the bachelorette party for my best friend and I am in a bit of a pickle. She is not the “party party” type. She rarely drinks and when we went out in college she usually seemed uncomfortable, so I had assumed the best plan would be a non-traditional party. Maybe a spa day and dinner out followed by cocktails and movies at a sleepover with the bridal party?
But I’m worried that because nights out on the town have become the norm for bachelorettes, even as a quiet girl who doesnt party often, she may disspointed if we don’t include this. I would simply ask her opinion but I really don’t want to ruin the surprise. After surprising her with a trip to the bridal salon on her birthday (which went SO well and she left with the gown of her dreams and tears of joy in her eyes) she now suspects me of planning anything secretive.
Have any of you ladies been surprised with a night out and been upset by it? Treated to a night in and found it disspointing? For ladies in the Northern Virginia/D.C. area…where did you go for your party?
Any past experience with your bachelorette or a friends’ is appreciated!!
Post # 3
I think a spa day followed by dinner and cocktails and movies sounds AWESOME!
I’m in NOVA. we didn’t do the crazy clubbing bachlorette. We went out ot Loudon Co and did a winery tour and then to dinner. We started around 10, finished around 9. It was great!
Post # 4
@pinktulleaffair: I think that sounds awesome, especialy if clubs aren’y really your friend’s scene. The great part is you if everyone is staying in the same place, you don’t really have to committ to anything. After cocktails or the movie you can just play it by ear. If the vibe is relaxed and people are enjoying themselves, stick with low key. If your friend seems up for it you can go to a couple of clubs. Or, assuming she doens’t like to dance, a pub, maybe some live music if that’s more her thing.
I also think it’s compltely okay to ask you friend what she is comfortable with or if she has any preferences.
Post # 5
I hate clubs and I hate being around obnoxious drunk people, the fact that I was having a bachelorette party wouldn’t change that. I would much prefer your idea to “normal” bachelorette parties, sounds like your friend would probably feel the same.
Post # 6
@pinktulleaffair: Can you have another friend ask her what she’s into as far as her bachelorette? Then at least it won’t be coming from you and you won’t ruin the surprise. The other friend could just act genuinely curious.
Post # 7
@glasgowbound: thats exactly what I was thinking. SO many great wineries out in Loudon. We have Virginia wine country at our doorstep!
@futuremrs1986: good idea! Maybe I can keep a few pubs/bars/clubs in mind, and if the bride seems ready to go out, I’ll call a cab….if she seems happy in, then no harm done!
@pixiecat: I think you’re right. Neither she nor I like paying $12 for a drink and getting jostled by drunk idiots….bachelorette or not, I think she will want to avoid that.
Post # 8
@pinktulleaffair: I second the winery idea! There are so many amazing ones in VA. If she’s a beer girl, there are TONS of local breweries too (Port City, DC Brau, Bluejacket just opened, etc).
Don’t feel like you have to plan something for your friend based on what other people have done.
Every single bachelorette party I’ve been to has been the typical get drunk and club thing, and while I love drinking and going out and dancing, I’ve honestly never had a good time at a single one of them (personally).
Post # 9
How about a winery? You girls can still have fun, let loose but not go with the intent to get plastered.
Post # 10
I agree with the winery idea — do a couple of vineyards, stay out in wine country, and enjoy it. There are some incredible wineries out there.
I’m not a big clubbing person, and my sister orchestrated this huge to-do at a spa for me — it had a casino, restaurants, and spa on site, and we all spoiled ourselves there all weekend. It was incredible!
Post # 11
@pinktulleaffair: i was just a BM in a friends wedding her Maid/Matron of Honor lives on the west cost while we are on the east. DONT ASK…anyway… i talked with the other Bridesmaid or Best Man and we desided we should take her out and not wait for the Maid/Matron of Honor to come the day before the wedding and do something, as the Bride does not drink (maybe 1-2 drinks) so we thought and thought talked with her mom and NOTHING….our Bride is shy and dosent drink and very plane Jane,eh whatever you want to do thats fine by me kinda gal…so we said AHHH F IT and took her to the city, took her to dinner, and took her to a strip club because we knew she never been to one! OMG she was a totally different person! waving money and dancing on stage with them HOLY CRAP i never EVER would have thought she would have done anything like that…me and the other outgoing Bridesmaid or Best Man sat in our chairs shocked of what we saw from our Bride and the guys…OMG WE felt so out of place but she loved it had a smile from ear to ear and asked us for more money to tip the guys! JEEZ…she grabbed both of us at the door and said ” MR. will never hear of this” we both looked at each other and was like “holy crap”… so you really never REALLY know who your friends are or who they can become when a particual situation happens….ha! good luck!