(Closed) Bachlorette Party Blues, advice needed

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Go, smile, and be grateful that they put forth the effort to plan something. It might not be your first choice, but it is their gift to you. Do your best to enjoy it and to appreciate that your friends did the best they could.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

They are throwing you a party which is a gift and it sounds like they have put a lot of thought and preparation into the event. You should go with a smile on your face and be thankful you have friends willing to do this for you. So many times I see on the Bee brides who don’t have friends that will happily do such events.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I agree with emp04. Go, smile and have fun even if it’s not your ideal bachelorette. It sounds like they put some effort in to it and your one bridesmaid sounds stressed enough about it. Just enjoy your night with your girls and have fun, make the best of it!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Honestly, you should be happy that you have friends willing to do this for you. Be grateful no matter what it is. There are some people (myself included) who aren’t getting much of a bach party because my bridal party doesn’t really give two craps about what is going on for my wedding.

I kind of feel bad for your bridesmaids. Here they are going out of their way and spending money that they could be spending on something else just to make your night special. For you. Sorry to be harsh but it makes me angry when people are given so much from caring friends and don’t appreciate it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I was in the same situation. I was the Bridesmaid or Best Man that let the party slip to the bride because she kept asking and I got an earful as  to why it wasn’t good enough. She told us what she didn’t want, Maid/Matron of Honor accomodated all of that, but it was a place she didn’t want to go. I didn’t say anything to the Maid/Matron of Honor about it becuase it was difficult enough to plan it so everyone could be there. And I was annoyed that I was spending money on a party that the bride didn’t want. If you don’t say anything AHEAD OF TIME, then you can’t be upset about location. It isn’t easy to plan a Bachelorette party and have everyone attend. The place that was chosen must be central enough for everyone to attend. It may not be ideal to you, but you aren’t the one paying for it and all of your friends can be there. So just enjoy it anyway! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If I were your bridesmaids and you tried to complain at all about this activity I’d worked hard to plan, I would be incredibly hurt. Go, smile and be thankful your friends tried as hard as they good. It sounds like you’re a picky person and that’s not an insult…as you said, you like to micromanage. But if you’re aware of that about yourself, you also need to be aware that it makes things infinitely more difficult for someone who is trying to please you. So appreciate that they took on a challenge, and maybe they didn’t do it perfectly, but they tried ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 10
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

When I planned the stagette for my sister, I was shocked at how many places do not take reservations for a Friday or Saturday night, regardless of how large the party is.  There could be a very good reason for the venue that was selected.  It sounds like your bridesmaids have considered the type of party you want, so just relax and have fun!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Not to knock you but, I would say just be grateful. I am planning my own bachelorette party because the Bridesmaid or Best Man who asked to plan it is completely unreliable and I honestly can’t trust her to do it (she hasn’t shown up for a single appointment, doesn’t even tell me she’s not coming until after the fact, almost didn’t order her dress in time and more than likely won’t be able to order her shoes in time because she took a spontaneous out of state trip for the next month, which also means she’s missing my shower that she picked the date for). Anyway, be grateful you have people that care enough about you to plan and execute something.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

@JumpeeKittee:  I bet you’ll have a great time once you are there with everyone! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I absolutely abhor Times Square too, so totally I get your reluctance.  I’m glad you’re feeling better about it now though – like PPs and you have said, it is the thought that counts ๐Ÿ™‚  

Moreover, I’m willing to bet that, surrounded by your favorite people, you’ll have an amazing time even at a tourist trap!  And then when the first leg of the night is over, you might be able to continue the party in the EV with some of your more night owl friends.

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