Post # 1
So my BFF’s bachelorette party is in a few weeks and I dont know the proper etiquette on these things as she is the first of my friends to get married (im 2 months after her). Do people just take turns buying the bride drinks? Are you expected to buy a round for everyone or just me & the bride? I just dont want to seem rude or stand offish. She is my BFF, more like a sister really. She just has her sister be the Maid/Matron of Honor because she thought that’s how it was “supposed to be”. Ive been there for the dress fittings and pretty much every part of the wedding activities where her sister hasn’t… I just want her to know I care but also be doing the right thing.
Post # 3
@LRCWedding: Are you guys just planning a night on the town?
At the bachelorettes that I’ve been to everyone just tends to fend for themself. I’ll just buy myself and the bride a drink – I think that’s perfectaly acceptable. Plus I generally never have enough money to buy a round for everyone… I think it’s a bit crazy.
Who is hosting the party? Maybe a nice idea would be to get a bottle or two of bubbly or wine for the group of girls and once those are finished then it’s each to their own…
Post # 4
All the bachelorettes I’ve been to, the bridal party basically covered their own costs and the bride’s; everyone else was on their own. How the bridal party worked it varied- in some cases, they were all close (sorority sisters, old family friends, etc) so they bought rounds for the bridal party; in other cases when they all didn’t know each other, a bridesmaid would buy a drink for herself and a drink for the bride, and that’s it. They just all worked together to make sure the bride always had a drink.
Really, unless it’s a super-organized party at someone’s house or something, everyone will fend for themselves. Your only responsibility really is to make sure the bride is having fun, which it sounds like you’re totally on top of.
Post # 5
We’re doing a round robin of drinks; we pitched together enough money for my friend’s bach party prior to going, the Maid/Matron of Honor is in charge of the funds and keeping her fueled all night.
We all also split the cost for her trip to the Poconos; 8 bedrooms but we split the cost among 7 of us so she didn’t have to pay. 3 of the girls paid for all the food and catering for the weekend and us other 3 paid for the drinks at the house. We all split the cost for the manis and pedis.