(Closed) Bachlorette Party…is it my place?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I was in your same boat! I spoke up and said what I wanted/was willing to do, sincce the original plan was to drive 4 hours away for an entire weekend, def. not my cup of tea. So after speaking up everything has worked it’s way out and one of besties has organized an awesome bach party for me and I believe all the others are excited for it, except maybe the one who was originally planning her dream weekend away, not what would be mine.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

As a person planning a bach right now. It is much easier for one person to plan and check in with the bride to be to make sure it is what she wants. If you have a lot of people planning it gets messy and confusing- Susie wants to do this, Jane wants to do that and no one thinks about what the bride wants to do.

I would maybe email one of the girls do you have a Maid/Matron of Honor email her and tell her what you would like and dont want and have her share it with the girls.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think you should designate one girl (if you have a Maid/Matron of Honor, she’d be the one) to plan the party.  Discuss with her some of the things you might like.  And ask that she include everyone.  She’ll be able to delegate tasks so she won’t be too overwhelmed.  And you’ll be able to breath easier too, knowing that everyone has a hand in the plans except you!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

As someone who has planned many bachelorette parties, it is REALLY annoying when the bride tries to dictate the entire thing. It’s supposed to be thrown for you by your friends so it might not be your dream night or weekend, but here it’s the thought that counts. One bride I planned one for went as far as to actually buy everyone sashes (Bride, Bridesmaid, Maid/Matron of Honor, etc.) which totally conflicted with what we had already planned (buying coordinating colored leis for everyone) and it was super annoying b/c we TOLD her NOT to buy anything!

So if anything, you can try to make sure just 1 person is in charge and express things that you would REALLY dislike (i.e. if you don’t want a stripper, etc.) but other than that stay out and show up.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

@Mrs. Alias: I dont agree with that at all. Just because you have planned bach parties before doesnt mean all the brides liked them. They should be exactly what the bride wants not what the people putting on the party want.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

As my sister’s Maid/Matron of Honor, I stayed in constant contact with the other BMs about both the shower and the bachelorette party. I planned both but made sure that they had input so that we could all contribute. It was a headache though b/c a couple of them were very indecisive. I think the end result will be worth it though. My sister had input about the date and the guest list but that was about it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

double post

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Nola: I don’t think anything that you mentioned is too demanding. I think a lot of time, the BMs can get caught up in how they would want THEIR bachelorette party to be instead of focusing on the bride’s personality and what SHE wants. There is no point in even HAVING a bachelorette party if you are going to be miserable or self-conscious the whole time.

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