(Closed) Bachlorette weekend turned out not so good….

posted 9 years ago in Parties
Post # 33
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m torn also.  If you were ready to call it a night at around 10pm then I can understand the girls wanting to stay and have a little fun.  I am glad someone went back with you though. 

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

It was supposed to be your night of fun. I think if you wanted to call it a night at one am thats not to much to ask. Everyone should have went with and put in a movie and went to bed etc. It should have just been a fun girls time. Not send the bride home and pick up some gusy to bring back! Ya right I dont think your being unreasonable. I would expect the same out of my friends and would be frustrated if this happened. Im sorry your bach weekend didnt go as planned!!! but hey your wedding is soon and that will be lots better. 

Post # 35
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

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@ADBK2011: everyone should leave together not matter what time it is. I dont see the difference…what if you wanted to go home at 10 bc you were feeling ill….all the Bridesmaid or Best Man should go home with you…thats what they are there for…for you.

At my stagette around 12:00 or so, I was done. Im not a big bar person, it was hot and I was tired. The girls asked what i wanted to do, i was worried about saying i wanted to go home as i dint want to ruin there night and they could sense my hesitance about wanting to say “home” so they jumped on board and said “lets go home!” no one was upset. One Bridesmaid or Best Man made a commetn half heartedly about how she was a mom and she had no kids that night and wanted to stay out later…but EVERYONE came home at the SAME TIME alone. And thats what your girls should have done it.

Its one night. They should deal with it.

The bringing guys home thing…so wrong (on many levels) but the bottom line is it was your stagette….no reason for that. That day/night or weekend is about you.

You have every right to be upset

 

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

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@organizedbride11: Totally agree!!  Yeah, I think it’s distasteful to bring guys back on a girls night, but it happened… it’s in the past, so focus on your wedding and enjoy what you have to look forward to there.

If it makes you feel better, one of my friends brought her fiance to my bachelorette party.  As in to the lingerie part.  He stayed out in the kitchen (it was at my sister’s house), but I was pretty pissed off at her.  She brought him because she didn’t want to drive the hour and a half by herself.  I was really annoyed, but I have to laugh about it now. 🙂

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Everyone knows me. I don’t club. I go to bed early. So, when my b-party comes around- don’t be surprised. I’m going to not want to stay out late. If my b-maids can’t call it early for one night/weekend (esp since they know how I get down and go to bed early,) than that’s pretty sad. There’s like 52 weekends in a year (theoretically) so give me my weekend to do whatever the heck I want.  And they brought guys back? You need to address this, because it’s going to eat you up.

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I don’t see any problem with them staying out later after you’d gone to bed, but they should have returned to your shared hotel room quietly and ALONE.

They should not have brought guys back to a shared accommodation.  It is so inconsiderate and what hasn’t been touched on is the safety issue.  If they want to bring strange men into their own homes, that’s their business, but it is unfair to expose everyone else to all the risks attendant to inviting total strangers into one’s home/hotel room.

This has nothing to do with passing judgment on them “hooking up” or whatever and if they had their own hotel rooms it would have been their own business.

Post # 39
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@sailor: Exactly! Who’s to say these guys weren’t robbers, rapists or worse? They can get their jollies on their own time and risk their own safety if they so choose. I would be livid if I were you.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

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@Just_Squeeze:  Yup.  I’m sure people will roll their eyes and scoff at us for being paranoid; be that as it may I choose to err on the side of safety and off the side of winding up in a hefty bag by the freeway.

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