(Closed) Bachlorette/Bachelor Parties- What are you guys doing? limits?

posted 8 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

This is a hot topic today!  I found this posting on a different website a few days ago, and thought it was really interesting.  Kind of goes through the whole limits thing from a man’s perspective.

http://www.theplunge.com/bachelorparty/what-counts-as-cheating-at-bachelor-party

I have basically told my Fiance that I don’t want him to do anything that he would not want me to do.  I trust him with that.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

if you think that, tell him! he should respect you.

i’m not into drinking/partying/dancing/etc so my husband knew he didn’t have an issue with me. my girls took me on a surprise trip to vermont for bachelorette party #1 for lots of food tastings, ben & jerrys, apple picking, a play, etc. bachelorette party #2 was local and we did jewelry making and game night. my fi, who also doesn’t drink, still wanted to do the traditional thing i think more for his friend’s sake. i told him i was ok with the strip club, but not with a lap dance- never again will he have another girl’s who ha all over him. so he decided to just skip the strip club all together knowing that his friends would want to buy him lap dances and they just went out to the bars.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am honestly very uncomfortable with the whole stripper thing so I asked my Fiance to consider other activities – aka just drink a bunch at the bar with the guys, stay at a hotel, whatever.  He said he’ll consider it, so we’ll see what happens.  I asked that if he goes to a strip club that it not be for the whole evening (maybe at the beginning of the night before everyone has had way too much to drink) and I asked that there be no physical contact.

Honestly, he has never been to a strip club, so I don’t see why he should be going to one right before we get married.  The time for that was before he was committed – and if you are getting married, why would you go to a strip club for the first time right before the wedding?  

 

Needless to say, my Fiance and I haven’t resolved this issue yet.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

my Fiance is going to Vegas with 4 other grooms for a weekend…I imagine there will be strip clubs and the like..The strip clubs don’t bother me, I just tell him that I epect honesty, and don’t come home expecting anything!  I’m not putting limits on because a) I trust him, he expects full respect from me and I expect the same;  and b) my father and a bunch of other fathers will be there, so nothing will go insantely out of hand anyway. 

I don’t know if I’m having a girls night..we have so many weddings this year, between that, my sister & Maid/Matron of Honor having her baby, and some religious holidays the month before my wedding it just doesn’t look like it’s going to be able to happen.  Either way, I’ve made it clear for NO STRIPPERS for me.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

MY Fiance is a very level headed guy so I have no worries about what he will be up to for his bachelor party. He will be doing a double bachelor party with his best friend who is also getting married. They will probably do a geeky activity (Dave and Busters, broomball) and then go to clubs, maybe a strip club.

Strip clubs don’t bother me, but I know they bother some other people. Fiance and I joke that the only rule we have in terms of strip clubs is shower when you come home, haha Fiance does not go to these regularly, so that truly is a joke.

For my bachelorette party I am having a double bachelorette with my good friend who is getting married. We plan to go to a champagne bar, then out to bars/ clubs, then crash in a hotel room within walking distance.

We aren’t giving each other limitations. I don’t think there need to be any because we trust each other and know that these are just a fun night out on the town.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

P.S. The Thunder From Down Under is a lot of fun! It was more entertaining and funny than anything else! The guys never got close to my group, but if you wanted to interact with them you could.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@Miss Olive — That article on theplunge.com is pretty funny… and kinda true.  I totally got my guy hooked on theplunge.  Last week he needed to send an update email out to his groomsmen, and he consulted theplunge.com first.  Too cute!

Post # 14
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly, I never really liked the idea about a bachelor party at a strip club. It makes me feel uncomfortable thinking how some naked girl will dance around my Fiance. And we all know, that guys are visual! Doesn’t mean that the guy will cheat, but having all naked girls around is not the best idea.

Lucky, my Fiance doesn’t care about a strip club and I’m happy. He had told me in the past that he has no business at a stip club and he would feel uncomfortable going there. I have told him as well of how I feel and he respects it.

So KIKI82 – discuss how you feel with your Fiance. I’m sure he will respect your opinion.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Well, 2/3rds of my bridal party isn’t into dudes, so I don’t think I’ll get a stripper. Little sad, I think they are hilarious fun. I think we are going to go to Tahoe for a weekend, Friday night cook dinner, drink champage and watch old romances, then Saturday hit the tables.

Fiance is going to New Orleans in what can only be described as an epic bachelor party. He rented a flat a block off Bourbon street, has chartered a boat for a day of fishing, and is pretty much planning a crazy time the other days. I am printing shirts for the guys that have The Rules, as well as an “if found, please call”. The Rules are, in simplified format, as follows:

1) No babies

2) No diseases

3) No arrests

4) No injuries

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