Post # 1
I’m totally not sure of what I’m going to do…
So many more things are tied into a wedding dress than I thought! Here are some details:
- Small wedding (less than 100…maybe even as small as 50, I don’t know. The wedding isn’t until next March.) I had decided early on in the process I didn’t want a big, all-out wedding
- I’m short…and overweight, so a frilly/ballgown/mermaid dress is out of the question
- We’re so broke, I think our budget is going to have to be pay-as-you-go
- Mr. M has hinted that we might have to push back the wedding or have it just immediate family and the officiant (NO!!! I’ve waited long enough to be his Mrs! His justification is that he’s already committed. The wedding/marriage certificate is just a formality.)
- I’ve never been married, and I’m experiencing all this for the first time
- Not sure if I’m going to try to lose much weight before the wedding
I’ve tossed back and forth on what I want to do. Do I want a traditional dress? Do I want a colored (prom-type) dress? Do I want to just buy something nice from a department store? I don’t want to miss out on the dress shopping experience, however, with money being a huge issue, I feel I can’t afford a dress.
How did you decide what kind of dress to get? If you did do something non-traditional, were you happy with what you did?
Post # 3
@ScootersGal: To address all your concerns:
- Having a small wedding will definitely help with your bugdet. I learned early on that adding one extra person can get expensive.
- For a petite curvey gal, an A-Line or Empire Waist dress is ideal. They cover up your lower half and help elongate your body. They also draw attention to your waist rather than your problem areas.
- I don’t think pay-as-you-go is the best. Definitely make a budget. See how much money you can save a month, set that money aside each month in a different account, calculate how many months that will take and set your date based on that. That is how my SO and I dealt with saving money and it has worked out perfectly.
- Lastly, I think you will find your perfect dress within budget. It might take some deep research, but it is doable.
Well, best of luck to you and enjoy the wedding planning!
Post # 4
IRS caught up with Mr. M, and his wages are being garnished for student loans. That makes saving extremely difficult, as we barely have enough to survive on right now until the garnishments are finished.
I do like the idea of A-line dresses. With my build, an Empire waist wouldn’t actually work, IMO, as my belly sticks out farther than my girlies. I once tried on something with an Empire waist, and it looked horrible on me. All my weight is in my mid-section. My face doesn’t really show my size, and neither do my arms.