Post # 17
sheelz – that is funny! i’ve actually been bugging him becasue I reeeallly want to get a cat but he doesn’t want to deal with a stinky litterbox. he claims we don’t have a good place for it. i know personally that there have been significant advances in cat litter but he isn’t convinced 🙁 another strike against him!
and unfortunately, neither of our schedules nor our generally proximity from work to our apt are conducive to hosting a dog. damned if i do, damned if i don’t!
Post # 18
Update – there has been progress! Something must have finally clicked in his brain that he needs to start getting a move on this whole process! Took me totally by surprise but two nights ago at dinner, we were sitting at the table and and he goes, “So I wanted to talk about rings. I realize that there is no good way for me to find out what your ring size is since you never wear rings on either of your ring fingers, so if you could find out and let me know, that would be good. Also, I realized that I don’t know much of anything about engagements rings, so do you have any ideas about what you’d like? I just want to make sure I get you something you want.” I felt small (for having been a moody misfit for the past couple of days before this) and giggly/excited at the same time! It seems like the “Engagement Blitz” that crebre80 mentioned in another post is starting to hit him and he’s realizing that he should start doing his homework. Eeee! I actually don’t even know what my ring size is, so I told him I would go get measured. I also said that I wasn’t really sure what I wanted but that all I knew at this point was that I didn’t want a solitaire (which is true, but besides that, even though I have been looking online at e-rings for like, the last year, I have nooo idea what I would want). So I have a “date” with a friend of mine to go to a jewelry store to get measured and and to start trying on some stuff to see what I want! I can actually start “shopping” for reals!
Post # 20
Awesome! What a relief, some of them actually do “get it”.
Post # 21
Wonderful news!! I’m sure you’ll be making an even bigger annoucement in the new few months!
Post # 22
Oh good glad that he’s talking to you about it! Don’t stress too much we went to Hawaii in April and I just knew it would happen then. It didn’t. I threw a small fit on our hike to the waterfall. You read that right! He proposed 3 weeks later on Mother’s Day. Wanted to do it when I least expected it.
Post # 24
Oh I remember those days, like coming back from our swoon-worthy vacation in the mexican riviera with ALLLLLL his family. Romantic location, family, perfect timing… i guess not. That feeling does suck!!! Chin up!
Post # 25
Sounds familiar to me too… We went on a cruise in June and all 3 other couples at our dinner table were on their honeymoon. I think the cruise line figured we were on our honeymoon too and thought they were doing everyone a favor by seating all these newlyweds together.
Post # 26
awww thanks bees!! i’m starting to feel way better about thingsi think a lot of you were right in that his best friend’s engagement is probably spurring him on. he actually told me yesterday that he opened an online savings account. he’s been talking about saving money even before we had our first “when are we getting married?” talk, but i’m guessing all this ring talk has gotten him thinking he needs to start stashing the cash! he’s also been SUPER lovey dovey lately (which is kind of his way of letting me know that he does really love me as much as he says he does) and the funniest part is that i actually opened up a savings account yesterday too! the idea was for us both to open one together, but i think we can evolve that next year (when I actually have something to save!).
i can finally stop daydreaming about rings and “shopping” for real!
Post # 27
@speechie – i swear to god the last 3 vacations we’ve been on, we’ve been called honeymooners or people assume we’re on our honeymoon! it must be our collective loving glows! this last trip, we decided that next time, we’re just gonna milk it and try to get as many deals/bonuses/packages/specials as we can!
Post # 28
Yay! I think sometimes guys don’t process information the same way we do. Like, they need to sit on it and think alone for a while, whereas women are more likely to talk about what they’re thinking to anyone and everyone. So just because he hadn’t been talking about it doesn’t mean he wasn’t thinking about it!
I’m excited for you!!!
Post # 29
I have to say I’ve been there too. We got engaged the past August … but we took a trip to Italy (Rome) in May?!! I for SURE thought it was going to happen there and I have to say I was pretty miffled (but tried not to show it) when it didn’t. Instead, it happened 3 months later at one of my favorite resturants in town. We did top of a “celebration” trip to Mexico with his parents that was pre-planned in September so I have to believe there was some method to the madness. 🙂
Hang in there! Honestly… the “waiting for the ring” when you know it’s just around the corner is a great time. All the exicting stuff is still ahead! And it’s super fun to look around to see which rings you like too!
Post # 30
Oh, I’ve been there and know how much it hurts and is disappointing. We went on a trip in June and the entire time we were there the room safe was locked. I kept waiting and waiting for him to propose. Nothing happened. I spent the entire trip home pouting (which I am now rather ashamed of!) and went to work the next day to find out one of my co-workers had gotten engaged, which led to more disappointment. It is way easier said than done, but I had to stop viewing every night out, trip, whatever as a potential proposal moment. Even the morning he proposed when I had a what if he is going to propose moment I shoved it out of mind because I didn’t want to potentially ruin the day.
It sounds like things will be happening for you, and all you can do is be patient. Easy for me to say! Wedding planning is a whole new level of craziness, so enjoy where you are today.
Post # 31
@jaxx– that happened to us too on our vacation. we had to explain at least 48 times that we were neither married nor on our honeymoon. i decided that mexicans dont travel with anyone they’re not married to? lol