(Closed) Back from vacation, back to being not engaged….

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 33
48 posts
  • Wedding: August 2012

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Post # 35
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

just wanted to offer support and say, hang in there!  i don’t really have any advice since most would say i got engaged too young, too soon.  [and they’re probably right, but we lucked out and things have developed in our favor.  did i mention a lot of that was luck?  lol.]

but many times, i wish we had been the couple to wait five, ten years!  although im happy with the way things turned out, i just think its so amazing and sweet to see couples who have been together for so long tie the knot.  it is really beautiful.  and great to experience each moment in its own..dating, waiting, engagement, marriage, etc, and all those in between.  so when i see some friends/family who waited a long time to get married, it has this complete feeling to it, and it just makes everyone around them so touched and happy!  am i making any sense?  its hard to describe, but i PROMISE, i am telling the truth, and not just saying this to make you feel better!  BUT i hope that by now you are feeling better and more relaxed!  and i hope all works out for the best for you! 🙂

Post # 36
461 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

oh and hey, if nothing happens by when you need it to.  honestly.  id sit him down and be say the same thing that crebre80 said!  he needs to know.  anyway, feel better, and good luck.

Post # 37
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

if it makes you feel any better my SO waited 8.5 years to propose. I thought it would never happen. i was getting so angry it seemed everyone else was getting married bar me. I remember saying that if I heard about another friend getting married who had been with there partner for less than 2 years i was going to scream, i thought t would end up ruining it by demanding that he did it. I decided to forget about it and consentrate on other things. And thats when it happened, it took me completely by surprise, He planned a weekened away at a lovely resort by the sea and proposed on bended knee on a cliff over looking the ocean. I was speachless. Everyone was like how on earth did u not see that coming? and I was like “well its not the first time we’ve spent a weekened away in the past 8.5 years!” lol

Dont worry, forget about it, enjoy life and when u least expect it it will happen.

Just dont push it or u will taint it.

Post # 38
7776 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Ok… I understand your frustration, but you need to chill a bit. If you pressure him into proposing, its not going to be a sincere proposal like i’m sure he wants to give you. He may even come to resent you for it and you do not want that to taint the first years of your marriage.

Post # 39
10216 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

hiya jaxx!! i definitely don’t think that you have pressured him in any way, i think you’re the farthest from that, after all he asked you for your ring size and what you’d like. btw that sounds a LOT like what the websites tell him to do. it’s especially cute that he said you wear no rings for me to get your input. I definitely think it will happen for you really soon, and hey engagement blitz ends in february, not december!

Post # 40
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Jaxx317 –

I am so sorry, that must be disheartening. I certainly know where you are in feeling that way, I was in the same position you are a year ago (he proposed last Christmas Eve). I thought Mr. Luna wouldn’t know romance if it was dropped on his doorstep. I will say though, men have a tendency to surprise us and I don’t mean necessarily by the proposal in general – I mean in their ability to make it beautiful, original and romantic, in their own time and way. I, personally, was proposed to by way of a deep freezer. Go figure (it was SOOO him though to do it this way which was adorable). We were together almost 7 years before he proposed and I thought for sure it would never happen. Hang in there – he may have something in the works you just don’t know. I would say though that you should stress to him that it is important to you to be married to him and then leave it be (my Fiance kept saying it wasn’t ‘important’ to him to have a piece of paper telling other people he loves me because he knows it and I know it and that’s what’s important to him – but he knows it’s important to me and he wants me to be happy).

Bon Chance, it will come 🙂


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