- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2017
Bees, I need your advice.
i have recently returned to dating after my engagement breakdown and things are not going as smoothly as I expected.
i recently was contacted by a gentleman whom I have known for years, saying he would love to catch up now that we are in the same town. Six years ago it was wrong time and wrong place for us despite the way we felt so I hoped that this would be a second chance.
In some of his earlier text messages he said that he lost his chance years ago and he doesn’t want to lose me again yet then he turns around and says he doesn’t want a relationship. I have made it very clear to him that I am not the type of girl to sleep with someone when we are not together.
The signals he is sending are so mixed, we have lovely dinner dates, and he even said the other night that it was our fourth date, and he puts his hand on my leg when he drives me home. But the next day he just wants to talk about sexual things.
Last night i had organised a date for us but he never text or called or anything when it became apparent that he waant coming. When I got over my anger and contacted him, he simply said that he forgot and thought it was the next day. This coming from a man who has a huge memory and remembers even the smallest detail.
I don’t know wheather to believe him or move on. Sometimes I feel like he is simply saying things because he thinks it’s what I want to hear and not what he is actually feeling. He has always been a smooth talker and could sell a different religion to the pope so I don’t know if I am over reacting. Could my wariness be that I am not ready? Or should I listen to my gut that there is something wrong and he maybe only wants to sleep with me.
additionally a month or so ago he completely stopped talking to me, no calls no texts nothing and we only started talking again after we ran into each other. His excuse was that he had been sending heaps of messages and calling but I hadn’t returned any, my immediate reaction was bullshit! We even proved him calling me worked when he tested it again standing there. I showed him I had received no messages but he didn’t offer to show the ones he had sent.