(Closed) Back, pregnant and STILL haven't written my darn thank-you cards

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@marzipanda:  Write about how you’re thankful they gave you a gift.

When someone gets you a gift do you feel anything?  If so…put that in there.

Post # 6
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

Our thank yous went out a bit late… I felt bad, but… we sent them (it was around 6 months). I just thanked them for their gift and said it was wonderful to see them and we hoped we’d see them again soon. The closer folks got something more personal, but that was the general message. Don’t try to explain why they’re late, and I’d leave out the pregnancy altogether.

On your other point… I bled for a while in my first trimester, but I stopped around 9-10 weeks. I’m 27 weeks pregnant, and she’s measuring right on track and kicking away. Stay positive. 

Post # 7
2906 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I had a script for most of our thank you notes, and just set aside a block of time each night for a week – 20 each night for 5 nights. It made it easier to just line em up and knock em out! 

“Dear X:

   Thank you so much for coming to our wedding and for your (thoughtful/generous/lovely) gift! Darling Husband and I are (saving for our first home, and your generosity will help us fulfill our dream of becoming homeowners/looking forward to using your gift in whatever specific way we will use it)! We were so happy you could be there to celebrate our special day with us. Thank you so much!”

There were a few special ones that I wrote more in, but for the most part, sticking to the “script” makes it easier. Good luck! 🙂

Post # 8
1401 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@FauxBoho:  Yea +1000

a thank you card should not be difficult to write unless you’re not really thankful at all.

Post # 10
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Here’s one of our “templates” I wrote (modified depending on gift and person).  We sent ours out before Christmas, so I added in a line wishing a happy holidays too:

Dear _____,

Thank you so much for celebrating our wedding day with us and for the gift of money.  The day was fabulous and wouldn’t have been as wonderful without your love and support.  We also appreciate your generosity with your gift; it will be put into savings for our future house purchase. 

We are so lucky to have such wonderful friends and family in our life.  Hope to see you again soon! 



Post # 11
9681 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@FauxBoho:  +1. When I am grateful and appreciative, I never struggle with what to write. In fact, I can’t wait to write it because I don’t want the person to think I am douche canoe and didn’t notice their kindness.

Post # 12
12247 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@marzipanda:  Wow! Ouch! Those are some rough replies you’re getting!

Sorry about the bedrest/being terrified about your baby’s health.

I would find it pretty hard to care about gifts if I was worried about my baby’s well-being, too!

I would write something like

“Aunt Glinda

It was so nice to see you/ hear from you! Thank you so much for attending the party/sending such a sweet and thoughtful gift! (Husband’s Name) and I are so greatful–and I’m SURE the baby is going to have so much fun using it!

We are so lucky to have you in our lives!


OP, OP’s Husband, and Baby”

Post # 13
1522 posts
Bumble bee

@marzipanda:  my membrane ruptured, I was on pelvic rest during the first trimester. Now I’m 35 wks so stay positive. My cousin bleed in the end of her first trimester all the way to delivery. She was hospitalized and stayed the entire duration of time. Her son is 3 and extremely healthy so there are happy stories despite complications

As far as the thank yous I’m sure ppl realize that you have higher priority issues right now. dont explain yourself just make an earnest attemyt to complete them

Post # 14
1623 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Honestly, I think it’s silly to “have to” (etiquette-wise) write a thank you note a certain way.  Don’t put pressure on yourself; people are just happy getting one and knowing you appreciated their gift/time/presence. 

Also, I really hope your pregnancy gets better for you!  Are you on bedrest just because of the bleeding or other health concerns too.  Thinking positive thoughts for you. <3

Post # 16
7232 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Better late than never! We also had a template. We talked about how good it was to see them (or meet them in some cases as I hadn’t met some of his family) or if they weren’t there we thanked them for thinking of us on our wedding day and told then we hoped we would see them soon. Then, if they gave us an item we talked about different uses for it and if they gave us money we told them something we were putting it towards (kitchen table, new dresser, camera) and tried to mix it up a bit so that people who know each other well wouldn’t get the same exact card (just in case they compare notes lol).

I had a TV tray set up with everything I need so that I could just grab it and write some when I had the spare time. Don’t try to do them all at once! Just aim for a few a day.

ETA: I struggled to write them as well even though I was very thankful so don’t worry about some of the PPs. There is only so much you can say about a check or an item that you chose and put on your registry 🙂

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