(Closed) Back to Back Weddings

posted 8 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

How are the distances between your 2 weddings.  If they are in the same town I donno why she couldn’t go to yours and you couldn’t go to hers and y your friends couldn’t either.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

how much do your guest lists overlap?

i don’t see why you couldn’t go to each other’s weddings — they’re not on the same day.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well you did pick your date first and your friend knew that. I understand that your friend and her Fiance had to do what was best for him, but you shouldn’t feel guilty about doing the same thing.

I think it’s possible to do both weddings if your friend is flexible about the timing of her rehearsal dinner. If you are having a late wedding, maybe she can do a rehearsal lunch instead of a rehearsal dinner and then fulfill her Bridesmaid or Best Man duties afterwards. On your end, maybe you can leave for your honeymoon on Sunday instead of Saturday so that you can attend her wedding. 

As for the mutual friends, I don’t think they would mind attending both weddings. It might be nice for them not to have to worry about entertainment for the weekend. 

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

for guests its doable, it may not be so comfortable to go to back to back weddings but def doable. You could postpone your honeymoon a day and she could have her rehersal the day before.  If you are flexible with other thigs you can even go to each other’s weddings.  If you don’t want to deal with the stress and guest having to choose you need to ask yourself what’s more important, the date itself, or who you celebrate with?

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i think it’s fine. she could do her rehearsal a little earlier or on thursday, and you can wait 1 day to leave for your honeymoon.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it would be fine, and I think it’s likely you can still attend each other’s weddings if you put a little extra thought into scheduling “extra-wedding” events.  Couldn’t you depart Sunday instead of Saturday for your honeymoon? Could you try to schedule early rehearsals so hers isn’t the night of your wedding?

 

If you haven’t booked your wedding at a venue yet, it may be a moot point…many venues booked up really early for the 11/11/11 date (also for 10/10/10 and my birthday, 9/10/11). I realize some have not, but it might be something to keep in the back of your mind before you say yes or no to being in your friend’s wedding.

I do think that, at the end of the day, you both have to do what’s right for you, and it sounds like you’ll both understand the other’s actions no matter what happens, so it’s not the worst situation!

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