(Closed) back to the bee..un-engaged.

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I read your other posts and it seems like this all snowballed out of control. I’m especially saddened by your situation because I act a lot like you do when you’re making up. My fiancés and my biggest fights have happened because I don’t know when to walk away and give each other some space. Seven weeks is a long time to think things through. I think you should collect yourself, and have a calm conversation with him, and talk about the posibility of salvaging your relationship. I hope things work out for you, good luck!

Post # 4
4304 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Honestly?  I think throwing such a fit over him not going into a shoe store probably scared the crap out of him.

This sucks, but learn a wise, wise lesson from it: choose your battles.  At the end of the day is arguing about a shoe store really worth that kind of blow up?  No.  It’s not.

I know, because I have totally done this in prior relationships and the anxiety that comes with that type of behavior is not fun.

Get some rest and continue to focus on you with your therapist.  The days will get better one by one.  Hugs!!

Post # 5
2571 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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@deetroitwhat:  I agree with this 100x.

OP – From your prior posts, it seems that you analyzed everything in your relationships and would communicate your analyses to your ex-FI. This is the thing: men are simple. They don’t like to overthink things, and constantly being analyzed builds their anxiety. When you meet the right guy down the road, you will realize that you don’t have to analyze every single thing (is it disrespect to you? is it equal/fair exactly 50/50?) – you will just go with the flow and be fine with it. Like Detroit said, focus on you for now – focus on healing and the rest will come later. ::Hugs::

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