(Closed) back to the old “do I put my registry info in my invites” question…

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I understand!  Before I came on this site I never knew this was taboo..  I grew up in the rural midwest and most wedding invites I’ve gotten have had the registry information in them.  I’m not sure what I’m going to do yet.  

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Damned if you do damned if you don’t. I’ve found when it comes to weddings someone will complain about anything.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I agree. 

I’m of Russian descent and the end all be all are cash gifts, usually in an amount equal to the seat. As an example, if I WERE to include registry information, not only would my guests not know what it was, but they would never follow up on it or care. So including it wouldn’t be a nono, it would just be a waste of space.

That being the case, it’s safe to say that people are different and I personally think these “rules” can’t exist across every single culture. There are too many different ways of thinking.

So I think you have to heavily consider your guest list before consulting any Miss Manners handbook. Sometimes it will just blow up in your face if you don’t take it on a case by case basis.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Hmmmm…tough one. I have always thought that it is ok to include the registry information in the bridal shower invitations (since the purpose of the event is to “shower” you with gifts) but not in the wedding invitations (since the purpose is the celebrate the marriage and, while most people still bring gifts to the wedding, it is not considered as expected?) I have no idea if this is correct etiquette or not though! I would be curious, as I am just about to send out my bridal shower invitations and am also struggling with this dilemma!

Good luck!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

@fresitachulita:  Putting registry info implies gifts are expected and is against etiquette, no matter where you are.  (It may be customary, but it is still against tghe rules of etiquette regardless.)

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