(Closed) back to the plan (mr bee’s that is!)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Good luck!

Post # 5
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

Why are you worried about him being happy? And what is he supposed to be happy about?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Good for you for recognizing not to focus on his issues, and congratulations on graduating!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Do you always feel like you come second?  That’s not a good feeling – I was with someone for a few years that always made me feel 2nd (or 3rd or 4th) and he would “joke” with me about it.  It hurt.  I realized that marrying him wouldn’t suddenly change his priorities.  I hope this isn’t the case with you…I just wanted to put it out there just in case it helps.

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Congratulations on graduating. Sorry he’s being such an idiot about it. I was in a similar situation when I graduated college. Took me waaaaaay too long to realize it had nothing to do with his imaturity and everything to do with the fact that he just wasn’t as into me as I was to him.

He said all the right things about loving me and wanting to marry me some day. But his actions said something very different. His actions said, I want to be with you when it’s convenient and doesn’t make me look like I’m whipped by you in front of my friends and just enough that I don’t have to be the bad guy and break up with you. (Oh, but if I tried to leave him, he always came running back to me. Ugh, it was so frustrating!!)

I’m asham to say that I kept going back to him until he found another girl (and even then he’d come back to me for a night or two). I just thought that if i waited out his imaturity, we would eventually be happy together. You see, even an imature guy who wants to be with you will alway make you feel like you are number 1 in his life.

I would do Mr. Bee’s plan and keep yourself so busy that one day you wake up and realize  you don’t need or want him anymore.

Good Luck!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@KoiKove: “He said all the right things about loving me and wanting to marry me some day. But his actions said something very different. His actions said, I want to be with you when it’s convenient and doesn’t make me look like I’m whipped by you in front of my friends and just enough that I don’t have to be the bad guy and break up with you. (Oh, but if I tried to leave him, he always came running back to me. Ugh, it was so frustrating!!)”

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

WTF?! My posts are getting cut off….. I also added:

Girl… you said it! That sounds very much like my ex. If we weren’t in two different countries, I’d be sure it was the same guy! They sound THAT much alike!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

OMG! The rest is cut off again. I said more than that. WTH is going on!?!?

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Waterfall: 1) That can’t be the only explaination for how he treats you. 2) If it is, then you really should think about leaveing. Life will get a lot more stressful and disappointing and if he starts to act like an ass every single time…  I think that is a quick excuse to explain away how he acting. But is this a pattern of bad behavior that you’ve found excuses for? Take a step back a really look at his overall behavior.

Post # 15
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Helper bee

Are you graduating college or high school? His actions and all make him seem quite young… Maybe by “one day” he has a specific age in mind… If so, do you know which age that is? 

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