(Closed) Backing out of best friends wedding reception as MOH

posted 11 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 16
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I’m sorry to hear about what happened to you, but at the end of the day i think you did the right thing.   You are right that this is your family and you have to look at their needs first, particularly your daughter and leaving her alone possibly.

Post # 17
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35 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2010

i ma very sorry that you are going through this.But I dont buy your friend’s story about the budget. there is more to this that she is just not saying. If it was budget she would have only been too happy for you to pay for him. You diod make the right decision and she obviously is not acting like she really wants you there. this disappearing act and not inclusing you in the plans really is a sign. Leave her alone until she decides she wants to come clean and tell you the truth. Dont loose any sleep over this. she obviously is not. But there has to be more to it. She is just not telling you. but your conscience is clear. Whatever is in the dark will eventually come to light. So it will all be clear to you eventually. But until then just keep her in your prayers.

Post # 18
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171 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m so sorry that happened.. and I agree it seems really really odd. There must be something else that is going on that would make her react that way. Keep us updated!

Post # 20
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1412 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2019 - City, State

I know this is old, but sometimes offering to pay for the +1 is irrelevant simply because, say for example the guest list was 50, but at 51, the venue or caterer charges $200 more dollars. Unless you’re going to pay the $200, I understand why she said no. However, and on the other hand, 100% of the guest list rarely shows up, so i’m sure it would have probably been okay.

But I do not understand not letting the Maid/Matron of Honor have a +1. 

Post # 21
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48 posts
Newbee

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@honeybee1999:  I don’t think money is the issue.  If it was, the bride would’ve at least entertained the idea of the Maid/Matron of Honor paying for her guest’s plate.  My opinion is this…If the bride loves the Maid/Matron of Honor enough to ASK HER TO BE THE MAID OF HONOR, than she should love her enough to want her to be comfortable at her wedding.  If the Maid/Matron of Honor had only been dating someone for a month or two, I could see possibly not including a guest for her.  But she’s been with the guy for 3 years and she’s the best friend of the bride!  They always say that for the bride (and groom’s!) sake, for ONE DAY people should set aside their differences.  This bride needs to consider that, too.

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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