(Closed) Backlash from Small Wedding

posted 9 years ago in Family
Post # 18
3798 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@cirrus: we have been telling ourselves that we will never, ever, please everyone, even if we had a different wedding for everyone we know just to please them.

Post # 19
17 posts
  • Wedding: October 2011

This is a toughie, and unfortunately, we’ve gotten somewhat into the trap of saying yes to more and more people, and now the guest list is around 150 (we’ve gotten a lot of “no” rsvps from the people that weren’t really invited for the best reasons, though, but still..)!

So this is a much better situation in which to find yourself, I think. I say that you should nip it in the bud as much as possible, and that means being polite but firm.

If the situation is such that you’re only inviting immediate family, and they aren’t (immediate means parents and siblings, and all of their SOs if you’d like. It sometimes extends to grandparents, but not aunts/uncles/cousins – if they fall into that category, and you’re not doing that, then you’re just keeping the policy uniform), then say so! “Sorry, but we’re keeping it small; just immediate family.” And if the situation is right for it, you can kind of.. play it off by adding something like “You know how expensive things are! Money is tight” – and make sure to *smile* there, so it’s not as much “You’re not important enough to make room for in our budget” as “We can’t afford much in general, at all” sort of a thing.


Hope this helps, good luck! 🙂

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