Post # 1
I have bought a dress with an open back (the V ends above the bum).
While I think it’s really pretty and I love the drama of the style, the prude in me has concerns about its appropriateness. I don’t have any pics of it but it’s relatively conservative everywhere else i.e. no thigh high slits or plunging neckline.
As it is being made for me, I have the option of making a higher back.. should I?
As a guest would a backless dress raise your eyebrows for the wrong reasons?
Post # 3
@ozpeony: I think it is about comfort. If you feel comfortable, no one will blink. If you clearly seem to be hiding your back and standing awkwardly, it will look funny.
I have seen several beautiful backless dresses that have been more than appropriate. As long as your bum isn’t showing and you are happy, DO IT! 🙂
PS… Here is a short thread with some gorgeous and appropriate looking backless dresses… http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/backless-dresses
Post # 4
I agree that it depends on how it’s worn.
From what you’ve said it’s not like it’s a skin tight, thigh high, clubbing dress in hot pink that you’re wearing stripper heels and caked on blue eye-liner with, lol, if you get my drift.
It’s all in the presentation. Some backless dresses are incredibly sophisticated.
Middle one is a little low, the loose fabric always makes it a bit more racy.
Post # 5
Thank you @kala_way: for adding pics for reference!
@ozpeony: If it were backless like the first pic of the red dress I probably wouldn’t blink. If it were lower like the 2nd two, I might think to myself that is a bit low. Also, if you’re getting married in a church, I’d have cause to have these opinions. If your venue is not religion related, I probably wouldn’t think anything at all.
Post # 6
i personally do not think they are appropriate in general. some can be nice i am sure, but most i have seen i do not like (including Bella’s dress in Breaking Dawn)
Post # 7
I think backless can be done in a very classy and beautiful way but you have to be comfortable with it to pull it off.
I found these in a google search. I consider these to be backless done well.
Post # 8
Thanks for the responses!! Keep them coming 🙂
My ceremony is in a church, but I will have a cathedral veil that covers my back.
I’m still pretty set on keeping the open back, but I just want to gauge how much the oldies might talk. I certainly don’t want to embarrass my parents.
Post # 9
I think they are beautiful…..remember it’s your day and what you feel beautiful in. You only have to impress one person that day and it’s your man…LOL
Esp if you are gonna have a veil on that kinda covers some and you won’t see bare skin just open so I def think it’s alright with the veil……what are your parents thoughts….have they seen it on you yet??
Post # 10
My dress has no back and it’s amazing–it’s definitely not racy or inappropriate–it’s your wedding dress! As long as there isn’t a plumber situation going on, it’s fine. Even those beautiful models/actresses in the images above couldn’t pull off a dress that low.
Post # 11
I was worried about this same thing. I fell in love with Maggie Sotterro’s Bernadette, which is a keyhole backless dress. Our wedding was in a Catholic church and I was a little weary as to how my grandparents would feel about the dress. But I saw my grandmother today for the first time after our wedding and all she could talk about was how gorgeous she thought my dress was. I think as long as it’s done in a classy way then it’s completely appropriate for church! What dress did you get? I would love to see pictures!
Post # 12
I think backless dresses are absolutely gorgeous!! I love them to bits and I really wish I had a backless dress for myself!
Post # 13
@Aggie10: I’m terrified of my boy finding pictures of my dress floating around, but if I can work up the guts after the wedding, I will post some pics up 🙂
I do love my dress.. for now, lol. It’s a love/hate relationship.
For those that answered “depends”, what are the reasons? Do you judge on a style by style basis or is it more to do with ceremony venue?