- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2011
I can’t tell you how much I have appreciated your support through everything.
My boyfriend is in the military and has been pretend proposing for almost exactly a year now. Right before he deployed, he planned a super awesome date complete with champagne and everything. He told me “Is this the best day ever? Well if you think this is, just wait until the day I propose!!” But then, after the champagne, he asked if he could proposed without the ring. His family is really traditional and I didn’t know what to say and I knew he would regret proposing without the ring (especially under the effects of the champagne), so I said “no.” No, as in, “I want to marry you but I know you will want to have proposed with a ring,” not “if you proposed, I would say no.”
Anyway, the next week he deployed, and said, I promise to propose when I get home.
Then, while deployed we picked out a date. And then realized that I can’t restation with him and have his family’s blessing on the relationship (I’m not moving to the middle of I-don’t-know-where and living alone) so we have to get married before the date we picked. So, “would a courthouse wedding be ok?”
I said yes, so long as our real anniversary was the one with the religious ceremony and reception with all our loved ones, and so it was all agreed.
He’s coming home soon, and I’m totally freaking out. I feel like I’m going to be engaged for an hour before we get married, and I just… everything is super out of order. I know he’s the one for me. I couldn’t be happier to have found him (no, seriously, we met because I found him). Still, I just feel really weird about the whole process, and I’m trying to convince myself that I’m happy with it. I’m not. I’m happy that I found him, I’m happy that we’re getting married next summer, but I’m super confused about everything else.
I just really appreciate structure and tradition. I appreciate breaking tradition on purpose but this isn’t that.
I think I just need a hug.
Thanks so much for listening. I totally feel like I’m going crazy!