Post # 1
I am considering having an at home reception after we get back from our Destination Wedding in Cabo for all of my friends and family who could not come to the wedding/weren’t invited. To keep costs down I am thinking of having it in my mom’s backyard which is enormous and has the potential to be beautiful. Unfortunately, it is not! She doesn’t take great care of and I think it would take a ton of work to get it looking ok for a wedding reception. We have hosted my sister and sister-in-laws bridal showers out there and they have always turned out nice but I think I would like it to be a little more formal. She has crap everywhere, big holes from her million dogs, and a HUGE spot of grass missing from when she tore down the pool last summer. Do you think we could get this looking nice enough for a wedding by next summer (May or June)?? We would have catered food, a DJ, maybe photobooth, some yard games, bonfire, etc. It COULD be nice…but WILL it be?? Any specific ideas of how to make this presentable?
Lots of Pics cause I couldn’t get the yard in one shot:
(Tacky birdhouses everywhere that she thinks are cute. I doubt she will take them down)
(Stepping stones to a pool that no longer exists)
(Half of a tree house that also no longer exists)
(Huge eyesore storage shed, big gaping hole filled with woodchips from where the pool used to be. Also 1/4 of a pool deck…why is this still there?? Ok bonefire pit)
(Back gate, this is the nicest part of the yard but it also the smallest and tucked away around the corner of the house)
Post # 3
I see nothing but potential!!!!
Think petals to cover holes! or flower arrangements
Were the pool used to be you could have a big table with flowers and your cake!!!!
I am currently a little busy but I will come back to this post later to send you some pictures
Post # 4
I think it has potential but it does need alot of work. I guess it depends on if she is willing to put themoney in. Otherwise, it may be more cost effective to rent a venue. You would have to demo the old pool deck and the old tree house. The pool hole needs to be filled with actual fill dirt and then you can grown grass on it.
Post # 5
Definetly!! I was expecting the pics to be way worse, but this just needs some TLC.
I would start with taking up those stepping stones and planting grass seed in all the bald spots. With some dilligent watering/fertilizer you have plenty of time for those areas to fill in with nice green grass.
Some edging and mulch around the trees and any garden areas will help the yard look cleaned up. Also ripping down that pool deck is an easy fix.
The fire pit can be cleaned up and you can do a cool smore station or something as part of your reception!
Maybe you can put the catering tent near the storage shed so it’s all kind of hidden (maybe one of those tents with siding? at least on that side).
There is a lot of potential and as long as you and your Fiance are willing to put in the work I think it could be a great space!
Post # 7
I think you could ask your mom to make it her wedding gift to you to get her yard fancied up. I think it looks a lot nicer than your intro made it sound. You could lay some new sod, clean up some clutter, and strategically place tables, and you’d be set! I am having a backyard reception in two weeks in a yard that currently looks way more challenging than this one, and I’m not worried about whipping it into shape.
Post # 8
I totally think you can make this work. But I’m not super picky about aesthetics. I think you’ve got the space, which is most important. You can add some feature areas and then people won’t even notice the areas you don’t like. What will your rain plan be? Inside or big tent? A tent will be a big focal point – if you go that route.
Post # 9
It would take a lot of work to get it to where you want it to be, and with the work comes money. If she isn’t interested in keeping it up regularly, do you think she would over the next year?
Post # 10
I’m in a very similar situation. We’re doing a backyard wedding but our yard is in bad shape and we’re spending this year fixing it up. Your yard is large and fenced, and those are very important things for a backyard event. I recommend cleaning up the remnants of things that are no longer there – the stepping stones, the tree house, the pool deck. Get a dumpster or a pickup truck, and spend a few weekends dismantling everything. You have pretty much an entire year, so reseeding the lawn would be an option. These tasks would help significantly and make the space more open and usable. Landscaping and extending the patio would be a bonus, but that depends on budget and how much work you’re willing to put in.
Post # 11
Honestly, I think you are being way too critical. There is nothing in your pics that can’t be spruced up by next year. Rather than ask your Mom to spruce up her yard, I think you and your Fiance should do it for her. After all, it is to your benefit.
The bird houses and tree house can be left as is. The tree house will be a great place to add lights and place the bar underneath.
Rather than remove the stepping stones, you could build a stand alone deck on the area where the pool used to be. The stepping stones would then guide you to that area which would serve as a dance floor.
Everyone has a shed in the backyard. No one will notice this as much as you. Again, add some lights.
It is easy to fill the holes in the lawn, then top dress and reseed.
Instead of focussing on the negatives, I would recognize and appreciate the positives. She has patio space to set up tables and chairs, trees from which to string cafe lights, lawn space for games like bocce and croquet should you choose to indulge, and a firepit for a bonfire and s’mores .
Post # 12
I think it could be fantastic! My biggest concern would be the close neighbors and parking, but I think this could be a wonderful space.
Post # 13
@MrsM914: Demoliting the tree house will be tough, that is what is left of it after this was already attempted. The part that is left is like adhered to the trees, almost grown into it. I’m also worried that if I start trying to do something with the woodchip pile I’m going to make it worse!
Post # 14
@JenGirl: rain plan will probably be a tent!
Post # 15
@bleusteel: What does re-sedding the yard mean? Just putting grass seed in the bare spots? I want to avoid sod cause it costs a butt-load. I am worried I will put all this time and money into it and then have it all go to shit again over the winter months!
Post # 16
@bbfyso: that would be great if it would look like this! Do you think a dance floor could work over the old pool/woodchip area? Or too unstable? I thought the square patio section could work for dancing too. Do you think the tables and chairs should be in the grass of on the cement?