Post # 1
I’ve been stalking the boards for awhile and posting for the first time. I have a dilemma. MY Fiance and I are on a small wedding budget ($5000) and really want to have a backyard wedding at my parents house in Michigan in July 2012. I think we could do it moneywise (with renting a tent), but I am just so worried about all of the other variables that go into a backyard wedding. What if it rains? What if it’s 100 degrees? What else is there to worry about? As a person who worrys a lot by nature, I’m afraid the stress will be too much for me. Any advice? Have you been to a backyard wedding? How did it turn out?
Post # 3
To be honest, I have found that attempting to host one in my in-laws yard has been very expensive. Tent rental is upwards of 1000 and if you went sides or heaters or a/c it goes up considerably. You will also need to rent tables and chairs. Plus it is sooo much to coordinate. If possible, I would try to find a venue that lets you bring in your own caterer and alcohol instead.
Post # 4
If you’re stressing now, I’d say you might want to find somewhere else that doesn’t have weather variability in the picture?
I too, am having an outdoor wedding, and asking anyone “how it turned out” is so variable with geographical location and weather. You can have all your ducks in a row in terms of planning, which I do, but the one thing I won’t know until the day of is the weather, which is probably the biggest make or break! We have a back up plan, it is no where near as awesome, but it’s something we’ve chosen to risk and something we have to not stress about. I am a high stress person as well, but the payoff of everything being ok weatherwise is worth all of the extra planning!
We have to bring our own washrooms, own decor, tables, chairs, linens, etc in and thinking “doing it ourselves” with a non-traditional venue would be less expensive, it’s turned out to not be the case at all, so really determine what you’ll need for the backyard and go from there.
Post # 5
i agree – i love backyard weddings but they can be pricey – tents are expensive plus you have to bring in everything from silverware to tables and chairs…but i can be done i think. i would start looking around and pricing stuff out. 5k is a very doable budget.
Post # 6
it might be cheaper to have it at church hall or community hall and just dim the lights to create a whole different atmosphere
Post # 7
Depending on where you are in MI, there are a lot of great state parks that have nature centers (covered, heated, air-conditioned, with chairs and tables- which add up) to host weddings in. I thought about the backyard of my parents house- and we’re going to have a 2nd reception there (the wedding is out of state), but it will be much smaller and not THE reception, so not as much stress. You could also look up community rooms (VFW halls and the like) or as crazy as it sounds- elementary school gyms (I looked into this- fairly inexpensive- you basically just have to pay the janitor). From all of my researching MI- as bad as the economy is there, they are still charging an arm and a leg for wedding related stuff- so keeping the guest list down really is a good tip. There are a few “standard” tips to keep budget down too- find a venue- but do a morning wedding with brunch- or do a 1PM wedding and have cocktails and hors d’oeurves. Good Luck and be creative!
Post # 8
We started out planning our wedding around the thought that we’d be having the reception in our backyard. The things that ended up changing our mind were these:
- bathroom to people ratio and add in that you would have all those people tramping through your house to get to the bathrooms.
- Size of house as a backup if it rained. After our guestlist grew, there wasn’t going to be space outside for the number of people, and even before it grew, if it had rained we’d have been screwed.
- set-up/clean-up and general wear and tear on the house/backyard from so many people/chairs/tables/etc
- there was going to be a lot of work needed on the backyard to get it looking optimal in time for the wedding.
All in all, I’m glad we decided to go with a different option. My parents were relieved because of the work/time/hassle that they were spared, and I was relieved that I didn’t have to worry about back-up plans anymore.
That said, I’ve seen some back-yard weddings that are absolutely gorgeous and if you have the space to make it work and the mind-set to do it, I’d say go for it!
Post # 9
We’re planning a backyard wedding and I have to admit that it is really really stressful and definately hasn’t ended up being all that much cheaper. The only things keeping costs down for us are the fact that we’re doing a morning wedding with brunch reception, we’re DIYing all flowers, cake, stationary…basically everything we can do.
we were worried about a lot of the same things as you are, and to be honest I still worry about them. Our backup plan in case of rain is to have the wedding in the house. But it will be standing room only.