(Closed) Bad Advice – Young Marriage (read with a sense of humor)

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Hostess
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Haha! Oh dear… 

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

hahaha.. !! 

she kinda reminds me of an ex-friend of mine…

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

LOVE this hahahahah

Has no one told 19 year olds that their frontal lobes have not even developed yet? Literally… their brains aren’t fully developed adult brains yet.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@lealorali:  I got engaged at 19, and I certainly felt adult enough to begin planning my wedding. I’m sure the same goes for every other young Bee. Pray tell, at what age is a woman fully grown enough? Because there’s no such thing as a childish 30-year old…

 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Hahaha. When I was 19, I was certain I’d be married by 23 and popping out babies by 25. A handful of relationships of varying degrees of ridiculousness and incompatibility and many questionable decisions later, I’m finally getting hitched at 30. If I met my 19-year-old self now, I’d probably laugh in her face.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Ellyson:  There’s nothing wrong with getting engaged at 19.  There is something wrong with getting engaged at 19 (or any age, for that matter) when you have to write into an advice column on how to deal with cynics.  When you get engaged, you shouldn’t feel a need to defend yourself.  If you’re constantly defending yourself to a myriad of people, that’s a red flag.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Oh I actually think she sounds pretty switched on! I met the right one later on, but when I read back the essays I wrote when I was 19, I realise I was actually way more mature and intelligent than I give myself, and other young ‘uns credit for!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I agree with @sally_g_2014 (and no, not because I’m only 21). I am friends with someone who is 31, been with her SO 11 years and freaks out at the thought of being married and thinks SO and I are strange for discussing getting engaged soon seriously. While it is true that in general, older people are more mature, age does not equal maturity

She does sound switched on, and I can kind of understand why she’s asking for advice on how to deal with naysayers. We must remember that SOMEONE has to be first. I will be the first of my friends to be engaged (and probably married)

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015


@alsgirl:
  

  I don’t think it has anything to do with “being first”. I think the issue here is that she’s asking for advice about getting married young. If you need approval from an advice columnist about whether or not to get married young then it seems like maybe you’re not ready. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@citysparkle:  I don’t think she’s asking for approval. I think she was asking for opinions. If indeed this 19 year old was asking for approval from some random columnsit, then yeah that sets off red flags. But asking for help with dealing with naysayers is different.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@moriah:  Thank you for introducing me to this site. This is amaza-balls!

Post # 14
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Worker bee

If you can drive, drink, and vote – you can get married. Seriously, if we, the citizens of Australia, have decided that at 18 you are intelligent and mature enough to decide the leader of the country, you can DEFINITELY decide if you want to get married. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@alsgirl:  You might be right and I do I think she is asking about naysayers too, but to me it also seems like she is looking for approval. Most of her letter seems like an attempt to persuade doubters/the columnist that she is mature. If she just wanted help on dealing with her friends and family then why would she write a whole letter about how mature their relationship is?

 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I love the sarcasm haha

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