(Closed) BAD Bingo Etiquette – Opinions Needed *NWR*

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What do you think? How would you react?
    It is the groups fault for not "saying the rules" out loud before every game, maybe she forgot : (8 votes)
    2 %
    she had every right to keep all the money, she did win it, not like you signed a contract : (38 votes)
    12 %
    she should have followed the etiquette we set-up years ago, bad move on her part : (97 votes)
    30 %
    you should have pushed it more and maybe she would have split it : (31 votes)
    10 %
    she knew the rules, needed the money and didn't want to say anything : (66 votes)
    20 %
    I would be upset about it : (65 votes)
    20 %
    Get over it, it's just money : (20 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 61
    Member
    11643 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    futuremrscrow:   Good luck! I hope she replies and it all works out.

    Post # 62
    Member
    2176 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    I’m just over here waiting for an update like this 😳

    OP she did you all dirty and she knows it. Kudos to you for speaking your piece as well as taking the highroad. For sure you should never play with her again under the original terms. 

    Post # 64
    Member
    381 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I will say this; my husband gets weirdly possessive of his lottery winnings.  We hardly ever gamble and when we do it’s maybe 20-30 dollars each.  He has won a few hundred on occasion though.  We share finances (he is the main bread winner) and has never once questioned me on a purchase or made me feel like it is ‘his money’ but he’s different with lottery winnings.

    I was maybe on the fence till you said you’ve split major jackpots with her in the past.  perhaps her financial situation is really desperate and she really really needs that money.  I would never again split any winnings with her, but I would try to let this one go.

    Post # 65
    Member
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    Friendship would be over for me. I don’t deal with stingy people who lie and renege on deals. Had she just said something, it would have been no problem. But obviously, she is just a fair weather friend. and exceptionally selfish. 

    Post # 66
    Member
    12127 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    IMO you are  letting her take advantage of you.  I would have been very polite, but made it clear that you and the other friend were operating under the exact same understanding as when you split a large pot with her. I don’t get why you say it’s history. That’s the whole point. There is a verbal agreement and precedent. It happens to be completely relevant. 

    Post # 67
    Member
    5889 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    weddingmaven:  Whoops, didn’t see the update.  

    If you’ve actually gone splitzies before and she didn’t do it this time I’d definetly ask her what’s up. What the heck, that’s so uncool!

    Post # 68
    Member
    1296 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I think your message was very nice. I’m in the camp of just letting it go and not including her in the bingo night anymore. If she’s so tight on money she can go by herself and keep her winnings, or save her money and not go at all.

    (Just out of curiosity, how much is a typical bingo night for you? ours run about $20 without any extra games or pull tabs or anything.)

    Post # 69
    Member
    629 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    Im wondering to see if the girl ever replies. That was wrong on her part and I would definitely not go to bingo nights with her again.

    Post # 72
    Member
    1581 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    futuremrscrow:  That’s not cheap! And you guys do this once a month? Is that correct? I know people have said that if she was really hurting for money, she wouldn’t go. But just think of it this way, she is probably stressing a lot and bingo might be one of the few nights a month that she gets a chance to have fun! I’m not justifying what she did. I told you to message her! (You did, good for you!) I just want others to think about what it would be like in her shoes as well.

    Anyway, I hope she messages you back soon. And if she doesn’t, next month when bingo comes back around you’ll have to tell us what happens lol I wouldn’t get my hopes up on seeing any of that money but at least you got things cleared up

    Post # 74
    Hostess
    8545 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: Dorset, UK

    futuremrscrow:  Good luck with a reply from her, I hope she does respond. Your message was well thought out and non-attacking. I will keep my fingers crossed for you.

    Post # 75
    Member
    982 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Dying to find out how she reponds!

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