(Closed) BAD Bingo Etiquette – Opinions Needed *NWR*

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: What do you think? How would you react?
    It is the groups fault for not "saying the rules" out loud before every game, maybe she forgot : (8 votes)
    2 %
    she had every right to keep all the money, she did win it, not like you signed a contract : (38 votes)
    12 %
    she should have followed the etiquette we set-up years ago, bad move on her part : (97 votes)
    30 %
    you should have pushed it more and maybe she would have split it : (31 votes)
    10 %
    she knew the rules, needed the money and didn't want to say anything : (66 votes)
    20 %
    I would be upset about it : (65 votes)
    20 %
    Get over it, it's just money : (20 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 106
    Member
    308 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2016

    Just read the thread and I think you went about it 100% the way I’d want to. Don’t know if I could so I might be $300 richer lol! It’s a shitty feeling to find out that people change when money comes into play. I also think I’d just be keeping my winnings to myself from now as well.

    Post # 107
    Member
    4858 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I think you handled this well. You’re a classy generous person. I hope your friend realized that. 

    Post # 108
    Member
    1296 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I would have at least made her take the both of you out to dinner as a showing of good faith. Be cheaper than giving you both $300, and it would put you face to face to clear some awkwardness. 

    Post # 109
    Member
    12127 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    Actually, I’m not sure you did this woman any favors by saying you weren’t upset or offended and by telling her to keep the money. To me that only enables people like that. I think you might have had better feelings about her long term if you had allowed her to do the right thing. 

    Again, it’s not about the money. I think she  is still feeding you a load of BS. As PPs say, if she’s that hard up, what was she doing spending money on gambling? And if she hadn’t won, what was she planning to do?

    On top of that, as your other friend says, she would never have said anything if you didn’t confront her and then she claims to have already “spent” the money.

    For me, the friendship would be tainted, but to have a chance at repairing it, she’d at least need the chance to prove herself. 

    Post # 111
    Member
    12127 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper

    futuremrscrow:  Up against your generosity of spirit, and willingness to forgive with no strings attached, she probably feels humiliated and embarrassed. As her letter to you admits, she knew what she did was wrong.My guess is that she will ultimately be the one who ends up distancing herself.

    Post # 113
    Member
    7371 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    weddingmaven:  My guess is that she will ultimately be the one who ends up distancing herself.

    Yup taking the winnings and scrams. 

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