Post # 106
Just read the thread and I think you went about it 100% the way I’d want to. Don’t know if I could so I might be $300 richer lol! It’s a shitty feeling to find out that people change when money comes into play. I also think I’d just be keeping my winnings to myself from now as well.
Post # 107
I think you handled this well. You’re a classy generous person. I hope your friend realized that.
Post # 108
I would have at least made her take the both of you out to dinner as a showing of good faith. Be cheaper than giving you both $300, and it would put you face to face to clear some awkwardness.
Post # 109
Actually, I’m not sure you did this woman any favors by saying you weren’t upset or offended and by telling her to keep the money. To me that only enables people like that. I think you might have had better feelings about her long term if you had allowed her to do the right thing.
Again, it’s not about the money. I think she is still feeding you a load of BS. As PPs say, if she’s that hard up, what was she doing spending money on gambling? And if she hadn’t won, what was she planning to do?
On top of that, as your other friend says, she would never have said anything if you didn’t confront her and then she claims to have already “spent” the money.
For me, the friendship would be tainted, but to have a chance at repairing it, she’d at least need the chance to prove herself.
Post # 110
No response to my message and saying I don’t want the money and I appreciate her apology. Which leads me to believe she never had any intention of giving us money as she knows we wouldn’t have accepted it. Would have been nice for her to respond and say that was nice of us to not want to take the winnings from her or something. Going to let it go, and let her approach me if she wants to continue this friendship.
Post # 111
futuremrscrow: Up against your generosity of spirit, and willingness to forgive with no strings attached, she probably feels humiliated and embarrassed. As her letter to you admits, she knew what she did was wrong.My guess is that she will ultimately be the one who ends up distancing herself.
Post # 112
futuremrscrow: Wow. She’s a piece of work. Wow.
Post # 113
weddingmaven: My guess is that she will ultimately be the one who ends up distancing herself.
Yup taking the winnings and scrams.