- 5 years ago
Long story shoFriend one bridesmaid is my w roommate from college. We at one time were the best of friends but she was very selfish (unknowingly) from junior year on. At the start of my finances and is relationship she was incredibly jealous and took it out on me. She is always just looking out for herself and does what suits her….one way door almost.
when we got engaged I contemplated not asking her to be a bridesmaid but did not want to severe our friendship (which I know it would have if I asked my other two college friends and not her. She sees nothing wrong with her behavior ever so wouldn’t understand why I didn’t ask her. So being that I wasn’t looking to end our friendship, I asked her.
Fast forward. The behavior has continued. We have been engaged fifteen months and she has asked me twice about the wedding not kidding…possibly three times (again this doesn’t benefit her so she is uninterested). She was one of two bridesmaids who didn’t come to my bachelorette party. It was in Las Vegas and was very exspensive so I gave her the benefit of the doubt even tho her reason of not being ale tafforded it does not add up. She led me to believe she was going the whole time up until the point of booking then called and said she just couldn’t justify spending the money meanwhile I knew she was never coming bc she told my other friend who told me)
Before the Bach party she never wished me a good time or anything. She did send me one test message asking if we had fun but that was it. Following, we talked on the phone for an hour and a half one day and she never mentioned thee trip, asked me how it was, what we dEd, what shows we saw. Nothing. (By this point I was fuming nc I would never too that to her….and all the awhile she acts completely normal!!!)
the icing on the cake. My maid of honor has given my girls the date of my bridal shower since january. It is this Saturday. Again I heard from my other friend that she was not planning on coming to this shower….I asked her about it and she said she was coming. So I felt slightly better…like she was making a bit of an effort. It is out of town and a decent trip but since she has nd one nothing else I thought for sure she would make an effort comings to something.
well yesterday I asked her if she would just be staying at my parents house Saturday? No response. Finally, she responds back that she isn’t going to be able to come after all and she really tried but just canmake it it. And you just realized this four days before!!??? C’mon!
Apparently her friend from growing ups sister is getting married Friday night and she is going to that and can’t make it to my shower. Ummm??? You are in MYYYYYYY wedding and have done nothing else!! Pnever why would you not tell me this months ago? Plus, I get its your good friend but its her sister…I would think she would make some effort to come to my shower since she is actually a bridesmaid rather than that wedding if she absolutely had to pick and make a choice
I am sorry butt I am hurt and infuriated. Is this just me? She has known about this for months and I thought she would have made an effort considering she was tonly lay one not as bachelorette party! Aside from the fact that she responded yes and cancelled so close (poor etiquette regardless) I feel like this is just the icing on the cake.
ughhhh this was just the topping on the damn cake. I am so mad at myself for asking her and I am completely over caring anymore about this relationship. DIY would honestly de bridesmaid her but at this point I think it would cause more drama than anything and I don’t want drama taking over what is supposed to be a special time.
i never even responded to her other than to notify my maid of honor because it is four days before and she responded yes. I really have nothing left to say to her because if she can’t figure it out at this point what that may be upsetting than I don’t even know.
Am I crazyyyy!