Bad dress shopping experience

posted 3 months ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2020 - California

Omg Bee I’m in the same boat! I’m a 34DDD and finding normal tops alone is nearly impossible without looking baggy or too revealing! But don’t fret boo! The best advice I’ve heard is to just keeping looking, and try EVERYTHING on. It’s a good thing you’ve booked with multiple boutiques because trust me the first one I went to the lady made me feel like I had to have my dress custom made and that felt terrible. Also with you on this for the best bras, because I recently saw a post about using tape? Not sure if that’s a good idea though! Lol hang in there beautiful! We can do this! For the busty brides unite 😄

Post # 3
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121 posts
Blushing bee

SAME boat here. I’m a 34E. NOTHING fits!!!! So frustrating.

Post # 4
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1689 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

So a number of things…..first. Wedding dress sizes are not real life street sizes and you’ll need to kinda get over that part.  I’m a street size 6 but damed if I wasn’t a 10 in a wedding dress!  Sheesh!

Second….Start with your own wardrobe.  What dresses make you feel beautiful and confident??  See if there are wedding dresses with a similar cut or style.  You can also look online and find a dress you like and then see if the dress shop has anything similar.  Google is your best friend in this dept.

Third as far as bras are concerned, it depends on your cup size.  I’ve used a sticky bra (I don’t have big boobs) but I think for bigger sizes that may not offer much support.  For any dress you do select you may need to have cups sewn in. You can also just use fashion tape.  

Hope this helps

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Oh and websites like Azazie make custom dresses and are budget friendly.  Just check it out and see if you’ll like it.   I definitely suggest them for your bridal party if you’re having one.

Post # 6
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157 posts
Blushing bee

Hey bee, I’m the same size as you are with large breasts I wear a 34dd and I hate having myself too exposed ect. I’m a size 8-10. I found my dress at David’s bridal, do you have one around? There were so many styles that worked for me! I’ll attach pics of my dress the back was all lace and full cap sleeves if it helps and I hope you find your dream dress!

 

Post # 7
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1316 posts
Bumble bee

Yeah I had the same experience. I tried a deep v and I looked like I was nothing but boob. I finally found a strapless dress that I love. The seamstress is putting metal boning in it and I don’t even have to wear a bra. 

And also – what is WITH all the backless styles? Not everyone wants their back exposed, even if they are small chested enough to pull it off! 

I think strapless styles will be your friend here. You can always add lace to it or wear underneath it to make it less ‘sexy’. 

Post # 8
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1015 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m a 36 DDD and ran into a similar problem. I wasn’t super into the idea of a strapless dress but did end up choosing one because the structure was so good that I didn’t need a bra! I was a bridal size 14, but what really made the difference was ordering a 12W! The 12W really accomodated my bust size! laughing bride

Post # 10
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Helper bee

Don’t be discouraged! You’ve only been to one store, you can’t jump to conclusions based on that. Every store will have a different selection. You might want to try looking online first, and when you see a dress you like, find out which stores carry that designer. Then you can walk into a store knowing exactly which dresses you want to try on.

I found dress shopping to be a frustrating experience too, mostly because I couldn’t find any stores that carried the styles I like. I had to call a lot of stores asking if they had specific styles because I didn’t want to waste my time going to a store that would be full of dresses I hated. Girl, I’m with you on the backless dress trend! I don’t even have big boobs (I have the opposite problem, actually) but I hate backless dresses. I’m rather flat chested, so I can wear my dress without a bra, but I have scoliosis and I don’t want my whole crooked back exposed.

You might want to look at dresses by Casablanca; they’ll let you customize any of their gowns, so you can add straps or extra coverage to the bust area if you want. There are also some designers that will make your dress to your exact measurements at no extra charge (Casablanca and Kenneth Winston do this), so you won’t have to order a size that’s way too big just to accommodate your bust.

I know it doesn’t seem like it, but you have plenty of options! Don’t despair! 🙂

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

The floaty boho styles don’t support or flatter large breasts . Neither do open backs etc.

There are dresses with structure on top that aren’t strapless, or that you could add straps to. 

If you prefer an unstructured dress you could have a floaty skirt and still work with support on top. 

I have a similar issue, but I sew so I was able to get a deal.on a sample and customize it myself. I sewed in a fave bra, added more support and raised the bust line, and reinforced the strappy back for better support. 

 

Post # 12
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3968 posts
Honey bee

I similarly don’t understand this obsession with backlessness.  It looks awful on most people.  It only really suits young slender brides.  It exposes back fat for everyone else and poses difficulties with breast support.   I’d suggest OP looks at Cocomelody because they have the capacity to modify their styles and to make them to measure.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I agree with the suggestion of trying strapless for a big bust I am a G cup and end up with an off the shoulder with a corset top.

if you don’t like the look of strapless see if they can be altered to add a lace strap or sleeve so your top is not so open. 

Also yes a structured top probably more practical and then you can go the soft skirt but just keep trying you will find your dress.

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