- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
So, I’m having an engagement party this July, (my mom is throwing it)
She’s invited the people she already KNOWS I want there, which is mostly family or friends of the family and told me to get the friends I wanted to invite (which she assumed was my future BM’s) myself and get there adresses.
She asked me this as soon as I got engaged and back in March I asked everybody I wanted to invite.
Well… a few days ago one of my friends texted me (mind you, she has a habit of doing this in the past AND she has known about my engagement party and the DATE for it for over two months now)
But like I said a few days ago she texted me and was asking about when my engagement party was, and I asked why?
She wrote me back saying “Oh, I can’t make it bc I’m going to the beach that weekend, so it’s not a good date.”
I’m sorry? MY engagement party that you’ve known about for awhile is “not a good date.” It must be so inconvenient that it’s in the way of a beach trp you planed just a couple days ago.
She continues saying that she feels like SHE’S in a hard place now bc it’s “a day, a beach, a weekend, friends….”
And I messaged back flat out “And an Engagement Party.”
She’s says she’s going “try” to make it, and my original plan was to ask this girl to be a BM but (and I’m glad) before hand I had decided to hold of till next year.
How embarrassing would that be if I invited her to announce her as a BM and she didn’t show up bc she had “something better to do.”
It just irritates me, and I told my FI. I invited her, and if she doesn’t show up, I’m not going to bother inviting her to anything again. Simple as that.
I love my friend to death, but she can be really selfish sometimes, and I am too old for this game, if she wants to make an effort, cool, if not, I’m not pushing her, I’m not holding my breath. We’ll see what happens.