- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2013
First off, I am having a destination wedding/weekend. We are renting cabins and staying the weekend with all our friends and family. This was supposed to be small, but already have 60 people who are coming. But that’s another story! We haven’t officially asked any of our attendants to be a part of our day, but they know who they are. My sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor, and other two best friends are BMs. I have another best friend that I have known for almost 3 years. We were extremely close and she is actually who set my fiance and I up. She is really bad about going through phases and not really putting an effort into our friendship. She is used to guy best friends who don’t really care if they go months without talking. I don’t care about going months without talking, except I when I make an effort and just get ignored. Any time I try to tell her how I feel-ignored and unimportant, she turns it around on me and says that I am acting like a toddler who is starved for attention and if I cant accept the way she is I should stop being friends with her. Well, I halfway want to, because it infuriates me to waste my energy on someone who obviously doesn’t care about me, but I do love her (in the sisterly way). I have decided to do a “test” of her friendship-a bit immature I agree. But I have decided to keep her out of all the wedding planning and just not make an effort either to see if she cares. Well, I truly don’t think she does because we haven’t spoken in some time. I posted online about Bridesmaid or Best Man dress shopping with my other girls and never even got a text from her. Originally, it was understood she would be my Maid/Matron of Honor (my sister is Matron of Honor). My other BMs say to kick her out. Should I? I have no ill feelings towards her, and consider her my best friend (but I dont think it is mutual), but I don’t really want to have her a part of my big day if she doesnt care. If I do kick her out, do I tell her? Or just never officially ask her?
Sorry this is so long, kind of turned into a vent session!