(Closed) Bad Friends…(long, sorry!)

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry you don’t have many girlfriends, but you certaintly don’t need those three!  They aren’t acting like friends to you at all.  I wouldn’t invite any of them to the wedding.  They don’t seem to me like the type of people that would be happy to help you and your Fiance celebrate your big day. 

Post # 4
1765 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Yeah, I think you should confront them, and be adult about it. They might not be able to handle it and you might not be friends anymore, but it might be worth saving the friendship. I’d send them ALL a slightly different email, pointing out the fun times you’ve had and wondering if there’s any way that, despite the differences in the past few months that have happened, you could all find a way to stay close friends by email/text/whatever. Their responses will tell you everything you want to know: 1. if they’re pretty defensive, you know they’re not going to make this easy so you’re probably best to leave it alone. 2. if they’re willing to work on it, you win–you can keep your friends.


Good luck!

Post # 5
2511 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Awww… that really sucks and I’m sorry you’re getting the cold shoulder from your used-to-be best friends. Unfortunately, it’s been my experience, that when you are friends with someone and then they, or you, move away, unless BOTH people put forth the effort to keep the connection, it can fizzle out entirely. I’ve had this happen too, and it really does hurt and make you wonder what all those years spent and memories made are worth now? IMO, it sounds like you are doing your part in trying to stay in touch but they are not putting out any effort, and for that they are not true friends.

It’s no fun at all 🙁 But take comfort in the fact that other people have been through this as well!

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