- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2010
So all through college I lived with three girls and we were really close. Ever since we graduated two and a half years ago, we haven’t been as close but the three of them have remained close since they all live in the same town and I moved back home after college. We lived in the same building as FI’s childhood friends our senior year so my friends are all good friends with his friends.
I have tried to keep in touch with them but nothing I do seems to work. I send emails, texts, facebook messages and call and get very little response in return. So over the past year I have pretty much given up. It really hurts my feelings that they seem to be BFFs with FI’s friends who they have only known 3 years but not give a damn about me when we have known each other for 7 years. Honestly, every time I would come to town to visit and ask them to go to a bar I wanted to go to they would either shoot me down completely or wait until FI’s friends said they were going to go and then they would agree to come. Totally annoying.
This past week was AWFUL. They have been planning for NYE and one of the girl’s bdays in January in AC. They had been sending email chains about it and I wasn’t able to respond since I was in the middle of a hellish finals week. Once I was done with finals, I sent them an email apologizing for not answering and explaining about the horrible finals experience and the money drama Fiance and I are in the midst of (another long story). I told them everything was totally up in the air for me but I knew for sure I wouldn’t be able to come for NYE. I got responses back saying, “Oh that sucks. But you’re still coming to AC right?” Nothing about how bad they felt for me or asking me about how I was feeling about anything.
Then this weekend, my Fiance and I made a last minute trip to my college town to visit his parents for Christmas and go to a football game with our best man. I let them know I was coming and the plans for Saturday night (we were going out for one of FI’s friend’s bdays). I didn’t hear anything in response from them. They showed up at the bar and gave me a quick hi and wave and that’s it. They stayed to themselves and didn’t make any effort to come talk to me. I was drunk and upset so I started to cry but I couldn’t bring myself to say anything to them. So we left. And I haven’t heard anything from them but I heard via FI’s friends that they are mad at ME for ignoring THEM! They are like a little high school clique and I can’t deal with it anymore!!
Anyway, should I confront them about their behavior? At this point, I don’t even know if I want to invite them to the wedding, but I don’t want to deal with the drama from them or FI’s friends if I don’t. I don’t have many girl friends so I feel super lonely and I hate that they are making me feel this way. At least I have the hive!!