(Closed) Bad morning for a Budget Bride (Venting, Sorry)

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
9831 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2019

run a nice bubble bath, have a glass of wine, read a good book, and do whatever you usually do to relax 🙂

Post # 4
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Honestly, its really really hard and I totally understand where you’re coming from. This year has been by far the most stressful financial year of our lives. What helps me is to try to look at it as a test. If you can get through this then you will be better prepared for life’s future challenges. Stick together as a team. Your marriage is the most important thing, even if you have to cut things out of your wedding it will still be the best day of your life. Meditating, praying, and remembering that money isn’t everything, helps me. You’ll get through this, take it one day at a time!

Post # 5
701 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Based on what you’ve said your personal budget may not be good for your income level. You should have some sort of cushion for unexpected expenses set in the budget so you don’t end up spending money meant for other things on it. Is there something you can cut out of your personal budget? Packing lunch, not drinking coffee, reduce cellphone plan? etc?

Post # 6
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I wish that there was a quick fix for things like this! I find that focusing on things that you can control (like packing a lukch for example) and making a new plan for the things that you cant (like the unexpected expenses) really helps in the long run!

Post # 7
8439 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I wish none of us had to worry about money….can you imagine all the crazy weddings?  Unfortunately there is no way around it, weddings and money go hand in hand. 

To save money, I’m doing my own flowers.  I know a lot of people think this is crazy; I have some experience in floral arrangements however, so it’s really not that difficult for me (doing all rose bouquets, not doing corsages, boutonniere alternatives).  I also printed our own programs, made the cardbox, thank you cards, Maid/Matron of Honor gifts, centerpieces, etc.  There are literally hundreds of DIY things you can do for your wedding that can cut costs. 

My Fiance and I also stopped eating out, I pack his lunch for him during the week, and we stopped buying snacks (chips, cookies, crackers, etc).  I hope this helps.  Good luck with everything!

Post # 8
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@magglemay-2013:  I know how you feel! I have actually cut my own expenses dramatically for this wedding! I no longer shop at all, for groceries I clip coupons ( I mean extreme couponing), at work i uped my deductions, and cut some of my money going to my 401K, I limit my driving to try to keep gas cost down, and Im doing alot of DIY wherever possible! I have a 15K budget which me and the fiance have saved over our 2 year engagment and I am continuing to save because i actually would like a honeymoon too! All during this time we are also paying off all of our debt so we can go into a debt free marriage! You’d never gess how much you can do without until you need to! Good Luck!

Post # 10
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

Tell me about it! Gah! Nearly a $1000 in car repairs last week. Not only did it kill my bank account but took a huge chunk out of our savings! 

Life sometimes isn’t fair!!

Post # 11
6015 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We cut our honeymoon.  We did romantic things, dinner on the beach, spending time just the two of us for about a month.  We just couldn’t afford to go ANYWHERE.  I had to move before the wedding and that cost more than I thought it would, especially since WE moved everything, loaded it all, and unloaded, and went to the liquor store for their free boxes … oh well we had a great time and we’ll do the anniversary trip!

Post # 12
149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I feel ya, 3K budget and I’m having dental problems – it’s eating my wedding!  GAH!

Post # 13
8439 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

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@magglemay-2013:  I’m not a fan of silk/fake flowers either.  I’m actually making the bouquets the night before, putting them in the refrigerator, and then wrapping them the next morning.  Plus I only have 2 other bouquets to make.  I think it’s going to be tough cutting down costs with 250 guests.  Maybe have a local honeymoon?  Find a used or consignment dress?  Good luck with everything!

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