Post # 1
Oh bees my morning did not start out well. I had to pull all the money I had saved this month back out to pay for some extra expenses that came up. At this rate I feel like we are never going to make our budget for the big day!
I know I still have at least 7 more paychecks until the big day, and I know my Fiance is also saving money, and I know our parents are helping as well. But it is just so frustrating! I feel like every time I take a step forwards I end up taking 3 steps back.
I wish money was not so stressful. I honestly bleive that is the most stressful part of getting married, and the process would be FUN without the worry. So I am jealous of any brides out there who don’t have to worry. I am watching our pennys everywhere to make sure we are able to come in at or hopefully even under budget (which is 5k for wedding at 1500 for honeymoon).
Any advice out there budget brides? Maybe even just for keeping your cool while trying to save and keeping everything in perspective?
Where did you cut spending to make your day possible?
Thanks for reading my vent bees, it feels good knowing there is someone out there willing to listen.
Post # 3
run a nice bubble bath, have a glass of wine, read a good book, and do whatever you usually do to relax 🙂
Post # 4
Honestly, its really really hard and I totally understand where you’re coming from. This year has been by far the most stressful financial year of our lives. What helps me is to try to look at it as a test. If you can get through this then you will be better prepared for life’s future challenges. Stick together as a team. Your marriage is the most important thing, even if you have to cut things out of your wedding it will still be the best day of your life. Meditating, praying, and remembering that money isn’t everything, helps me. You’ll get through this, take it one day at a time!
Post # 5
Based on what you’ve said your personal budget may not be good for your income level. You should have some sort of cushion for unexpected expenses set in the budget so you don’t end up spending money meant for other things on it. Is there something you can cut out of your personal budget? Packing lunch, not drinking coffee, reduce cellphone plan? etc?
Post # 6
I wish that there was a quick fix for things like this! I find that focusing on things that you can control (like packing a lukch for example) and making a new plan for the things that you cant (like the unexpected expenses) really helps in the long run!
Post # 7
I wish none of us had to worry about money….can you imagine all the crazy weddings? Unfortunately there is no way around it, weddings and money go hand in hand.
To save money, I’m doing my own flowers. I know a lot of people think this is crazy; I have some experience in floral arrangements however, so it’s really not that difficult for me (doing all rose bouquets, not doing corsages, boutonniere alternatives). I also printed our own programs, made the cardbox, thank you cards, Maid/Matron of Honor gifts, centerpieces, etc. There are literally hundreds of DIY things you can do for your wedding that can cut costs.
My Fiance and I also stopped eating out, I pack his lunch for him during the week, and we stopped buying snacks (chips, cookies, crackers, etc). I hope this helps. Good luck with everything!
Post # 8
@magglemay-2013: I know how you feel! I have actually cut my own expenses dramatically for this wedding! I no longer shop at all, for groceries I clip coupons ( I mean extreme couponing), at work i uped my deductions, and cut some of my money going to my 401K, I limit my driving to try to keep gas cost down, and Im doing alot of DIY wherever possible! I have a 15K budget which me and the fiance have saved over our 2 year engagment and I am continuing to save because i actually would like a honeymoon too! All during this time we are also paying off all of our debt so we can go into a debt free marriage! You’d never gess how much you can do without until you need to! Good Luck!
Post # 9
I have cut a lot of things from my normal spending already, including shopping (oh how I love to shop). But I hardly ever eat out and don’t buy coffee on the way to work (even though its really tempting sometimes). I live by myself so all the bills are on me, so that doesn’t make things any easier. My Fiance keeps assuring me that everything will work out and we will be able to save plenty. I just have to keep trusting him 🙂 Right? JK.
Our decorations are already pretty simple and we are not having a traditional centerpiece, so that shouldn’t be too much of an issue. I actually really wish our theme for the wedding would allow more DIY options but unfortunately my vision doesn’t fit DIY much. We are printing our own invitations/RSVPS/ Thank yous though. So that will save lots of $$$! And then I am planning on doing my own card box, I am actually pretty excited about this because I really want some DIY at the wedding 🙂
The food is going to be the biggest expense. We are already choosing the cheapest option through the venue but I have a big family and so does Fiance so with pretty much just family and a few friends we are going to be lucky to under 250 guests. That’s a lot of mouths to feed.
I have thought about doing our own flowers but Fiance nixed fake flowers, and I don’t want to stress about making our bouquets the morning of the wedding, so I don’t think that’s much of an option.
But thanks for listening to my rant, and thanks for the advice!
@Jacqui90: A glass of wine is definitely in my future this evening (maybe along with the premiere of Glee LOL)
Post # 10
Tell me about it! Gah! Nearly a $1000 in car repairs last week. Not only did it kill my bank account but took a huge chunk out of our savings!
Life sometimes isn’t fair!!
Post # 11
We cut our honeymoon. We did romantic things, dinner on the beach, spending time just the two of us for about a month. We just couldn’t afford to go ANYWHERE. I had to move before the wedding and that cost more than I thought it would, especially since WE moved everything, loaded it all, and unloaded, and went to the liquor store for their free boxes … oh well we had a great time and we’ll do the anniversary trip!
Post # 12
I feel ya, 3K budget and I’m having dental problems – it’s eating my wedding! GAH!
Post # 13
@magglemay-2013: I’m not a fan of silk/fake flowers either. I’m actually making the bouquets the night before, putting them in the refrigerator, and then wrapping them the next morning. Plus I only have 2 other bouquets to make. I think it’s going to be tough cutting down costs with 250 guests. Maybe have a local honeymoon? Find a used or consignment dress? Good luck with everything!