Bad morning sickness & still miscarried

posted 3 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2016

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tommywantwingy :  I’m sorry babe. *hugs*

Just remember lower risk doesn’t mean no risk.  Similar to how people still get pregnant while on birth control, etc.. it’s just less likely.

I know it’s a mindfuck, either way.. I wish I had something better to say.  The first trimester is terrifying.   Love you. *hugs*

 

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I’m so so sorry for your loss, it’s heartbreaking! With my first pregnancy I also had terrible morning sickness, this also ended in miscarriage! My baby stopped growing at 14+2 (had a healthy scan at 13+6) but I didn’t find out until 18 weeks! But please know that I have gone on to have a beautiful little girl! 

 

Again im so sorry for your loss and my thoughts are with you ❤️ If you need to talk to someone you can always pm me, or I’m sure there is a professional near you who could help if you feel you are not coping well. 

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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tommywantwingy :  I’m so sorry bee xx

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Helper bee

I don’t have any advice. I just wanted to say that I am so sorry. 

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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I’m so sorry. Those “predictors” are just an average of tons of individual data points. The data points themselves range across the whole spectrum. The opposite is true too – people with no morning sickness who have a healthy pregnancy. 

All you can do is just hope for the best…. the rest of it is out of our control. I hope you recover from this soon and go on to have a perfect sticky baby ❤️

Post # 8
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Busy Beekeeper

Hi bee – I haven’t experienced this type of miscarriage (mine happened naturally just shy of 7 weeks, which was before my first ultrasound, and I never had many symptoms), but I just wanted to send you support and virtual hugs. I can’t imagine the shock of finding out at a 12 week ultrasound after a perfect one at 8 weeks that the baby had passed – you are so strong for getting through this. You are going to get your rainbow baby and hopefully very soon. When you get pregnant again it’s going to be terrifying – there’s no getting around that – but with your own strength and the support of your partner, I know you’ll be able to make it through. I would never wish a miscarriage on anyone, but if there can be a silver lining around something so awful, I would say that (at least for me) it’s that it makes you so much more grateful and it makes you treasure a future pregnancy that much more – it’s something you’d never take for granted (not that you would anyway of course).

I’m thinking of you a lot, along with the beautiful baby you lost, and praying your return to the bleak world of TTC will be very short lived!

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Busy bee

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tommywantwingy :  I’m glad to hear you are doing better, but yes it does come in waves! It does get better, I promise, it just takes a while I’m afraid, and silly things will set you off when you least expect it. But you can do this, you are so strong and you WILL have your rainbow baby ❤️

Post # 12
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Busy bee

I’m so sorry. 

It’s heartbreaking, but as someone who has had an unexplained stillbirth, the harsh biological reality is that there are no gaurantees in pregnancy at any stage. 🙁

But that said, most people will go on to have healthy pregnancies even after losses. My last pregnancy was harrowing, and just so mentally and physically hard on me..but it was all worth it-  my daughter is a healthy, super duper adorable 3 year old! 

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

Nothing to add except my experience was similar. I had super strong food aversions, morning sickness, nighttime sickness and a rocking heartbeat at 8weeks. I had a bad gut feeling something was wrong (despite everyone telling me I was perfectly fine) so I wasn’t horribly shocked when I found out.

There wasn’t anything specific that helped me feel better except the passing of time. And unfortunately 8+ months later, I still get super sad about it some days. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I am so sorry! My experience wasn’t like yours, but miscarriages are so horrible no matter what. I’m sorry you’re going through this!

while you heal, please be gentle and kind to yourself. After we lost our baby, my body and my heart needed time to heal. I became depressed and found a therapist who specialized in grief. I am so glad I went to her to process my experience. If you are feeling like your sad feelings are lingering, I can’t recommend therapy enough. 

💚 to you!

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