- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2010
We’re getting married in 10 days, and Friday night my mom called (I live a 7 hour drive away) to tell me my dad had been rushed to the emergency room. He had calcium levels so high the e.r. doctor said most people would be in a coma, his kidneys were badly damaged, and he was having major bone problems. Ugh, it’s hard to write this. I’m starting to cry just typing it. I was home 3 weeks ago, and he was fine. Anyway, I flew home the next morning, and this is where the good news comes in. I had to leave in a hurry, and my Fiance was absolutely fantastic, and is really the only reason I didn’t lose it completely. But of course I expected that 🙂 The amazing thing was how great everyone else has been. My dress was getting altered and wasn’t scheduled to be finished for another 5 days. I stopped by the alterations place and explained that I needed to take it with me on a plane and understood that they hadn’t gotten to it yet, so I’d just take it and pay for whatever they’d done (it turns out they hadn’t done anything yet). And even though it was 11:30 and I needed to leave by 1:00, the guy incredibly nicely offered to do the entire thing immediately. I said that wasn’t necessary, but he insisted, and sure enough had altered the whole thing start to finish in under 1 1/2 hours. I had nothing to carry it in on the plane, so we ran by Macy’s and B,B,&B to look for garment bags, but they didn’t have any, so I went to the Macy’s dress dept. and said I had a family emergency and asked if I could have a plastic dress bag, and she very nicely gave me one. Which made me tear up.
At the hospital, my dad had the nicest, most outgoing nurses imaginable. And although he looked horrible the first day I saw him (Saturday), the next day he looked much better, and I bet a lot of that had to do with being around such great people. So we were really encouraged by that, even though by that point he’d been diagnosis with multiple myeloma (bone marrow cancer) and had started chemo immediately. We ran into 2 friends of my mom’s after church and when they heard about it and found out a bunch of my family was flying in Monday for the wedding, they immediately insisted on making a ton of food for everyone. It was really sweet. We were all scheduled to leave for Yosemite next Tuesday (where the wedding is, about 200 miles from my parents’), and of course none of that matters and we can get married whenever he’s feeling better, anywhere at all, these very nice people were also offering to find local parks or backyards or whatever and bake cupcakes. So I have to say, all of this has made horrible news so much easier. It’s so fantastic how nice perfect strangers have been, and even the smallest gestures have really made all the difference. Then this morning we went to visit during rounds (all of his nurses has encouraged us to visit then, saying that was the best time to meet the doctors and ask questions). The whole team of 5 people was amazing–except for the head doctor, who is beyond a jerk. He was so abrupt, he interrupted the other doctors, he didn’t answer many questions, and after about 5 minutes he announced, “I don’t have time to just sit around and talk!” and walked out. This was in the middle of HIM asking my dad questions. The rest of his team was very nice, and huddled around my mom asked if she had any more questions, until he yelled at them to follow him. I know how busy doctors are, but never did he explain any basic thing like how many rounds of chemo are typical. My mom was really upset because she was thinking this would be the first time we’d get to ask some questions and get some basic information.
Anyway, sorry, this was meant to be a post about how great most people are, especially in bad situations. But it was really hard to watch this jerk basically completely dismiss both my parents with the worst bedside manner I’ve ever seen. We get that you’re busy. Just politely say, “I’m so sorry, but we’d better get to the next patient. But I can answer your questions later or you can talk to Doctor-so-and-so.”
Anyway, hive, thank you for listening to my rant! You guys are among the great people 🙂