(Closed) Bad news– FI has to attend a confrence 4 days after we get hitched. Help!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

There is nothing that says the honeymoon has to immeadiately follow the wedding.  Could you guys plan to go somewhere for whatever type of honeymoon you desire the week after the conference?  Obviously it isn’t ideal and maybe not as romantic to have to go back to work the week right after the wedding, but then you guys could take the next week off and have 9 days (work week and 2 weekends) to plan whatever trip you want!  Then he still gets to attend his conference and you still get a honeymoon that fits you both!

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee

I feel your pain.  Because of my husbands work we have to put our honeymoon for for a year!  I think you should have him take the few days after the wedding off so you can just relax and enjoy each other’s company.  And then.. at a later point when it works for your schedule and budget plan a big honeymoon trip that’s exactly what you want.

Post # 6
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I’m sorry your honeymoon plans are interrupted. I know you were looking forward to having it right after the wedding. But all is not lost. You can still plan a trip that is not too costly at a time you are both available and to a destination you both want!(Don’t go to Vegas for your honeymoon just because he has to be there for work.)

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Do you have enough vacation days that you could afford to take the Monday and Tuesday between the wedding and conference off to just relax as two newleyweds at home in addition to taking the week after the conference off to do an actual trip?  You’d both still work a short week (Wed-Fri) but you’d get some alone time right after the wedding and could take an actual honeymoon trip a week late.

Post # 8
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Can he take off a few days in the beginning of that week? Or will that make it too hard for him to take off time for your “real” honeymoon?

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Aw man, that sucks!  I’d be upset too, its good that you realize this is something he has to do, and that you don’t blame him.  Honestly, if I were you, I’d spend the time until he has to leave together, not at work if possible.  Then plan a honeymoon at another time.  Because if you do go to Vegas you might be distracted by the fact that its not where you want to be.

Post # 11
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Sounds like it may work better for you both if he attends the conference and then takes some time off later for a honeymoon?

Post # 13
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

I only think it’s not ideal because you said that Vegas is not your scene at all. I’d hate for you to choose a honeymoon based on where his work sends him.

Post # 15
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4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Well, have you been to Vegas before?  Its actually really nice.  I’m not a gambler, nor am I a big drinker/partier (anymore) but we had a blast there.  You might end up being surprised.  There are a bunch of fabulous restaurants, a lot of which are romantic.  There’s amazing shopping, spas, shows.  I’d do some research, at least consider it.  And you guys can always plan for a ‘honeymoon’ that is more your speed for another time.

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