(Closed) bad reaction to budoir pics

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 32
178 posts
Blushing bee

@Diamondgurl:  “(men just do not beat it off to pictures their SOs)”


That’s not always true. It isn’t in my case but I won’t get into how I know that. 🙂

Post # 34
7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I talked to my husband before doing them because I saw a post on here (I was searching for advice about boudoir shoots) where a bee’s husband didn’t react very well. He told me that he would much rather just have the real thing and that he didn’t see a real reason to have the pictures. I asked if it would bother him if I did them and he said no. 

So I did them for myself. I was in terrific shape and I know that some day I won’t look quite as good as I did when I took the pictures. Maybe it seems really prideful that I look at my pictures and think ‘damn I look good’ but I’m happy that I will always have those to look back at. I gave my husband a few anyways and he liked them but he was pretty indifferent about it.


Post # 35
730 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@libertine_lady:  don’t really have much to offer, other than, my Darling Husband has the exact same opinion as your Fiance. Not all men want or need to see their sweeties in print. And I don’t think that makes them prudish or controlling or possessive. I’m sorry you were disappointed with his reaction to your surprise.

@joya_aspera:  yes, this…

Post # 36
2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@libertine_lady:  About 6-7 years ago, I took photos of myself at home for SO. It definitely wasn’t his thing. He seemed more shocked than anything else. That’s just who he is, so he’s never gotten naked or semi-naked photos again. For the record, I don’t think he’s crazy. Odd, maybe, but not crazy.


Post # 36
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Could it be that he’s just that into you that he doesn’t want to share your sexy body with ANYONE else? Think about that!

Post # 37
857 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

that sucks! Honestly tho, I can agree with your Fiance. I’m really open and get changed in the hallway at school and stuff and it doesn’t bother me. But the thought of being naked in a sexual way around someone other than him would bother me, and it would bother me if he did it as well. 

Post # 38
314 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

The whole reason I value budoir pictures is your body won’t always look that way. I like the idea of capturing your “prime” in a photograph. Tell him one day when he’s, oh say…80, he can whip out those pictures and admire them. I always thought they were something that became appreciated much later. Why appreciate them now? You look the same as the photo and he can look at that any time he wants.

But someday he won’t be able to, and maybe then he’ll appreciate those photos. 🙂 If he’s okay with keeping them, ask him to save them for later.

Kudos to your bravery! Tasteful budoir can be very beautiful. I’m definately getting my own session once I get over my shyness.

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