Bad SA results

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Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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Equine_Breeder :  he should have a repeat SA in 8 weeks to confirm, just to be sure.  They should never diagnose male factor infertility off of a single sample.  Your husband should be taking vitamins and making sure his testicles don’t get hot (no baths, hot tubs, etc).  

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Buzzing bee

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Equine_Breeder :  my DH SA was so much worse than that. We were also told our only way to have kids was IVF. I know you’re feeling it, but I’m sure your DH is feeling it worse. My DH actually went to a dark place for months. He took the news bad. Once we spoke to a fertility doctor and they said we could still have kids, IVF was recommended but we would need ICSI I believe it was called (it’s when they put the semen in the egg) and suggested PGS testing. He started coming around. This was back in 2016. We have a daughter and we are 6 weeks away from meeting our twins. The news is hard to take but it happens. You would be surprised how many people face fertility issues and it can be either male, female or both factors. A positive we took from this was (do not read into this please) DH was diagnosed with testicular cancer this time last year. I strongly believe had his SA not been bad and seeing a urologist he would have ignored all signs. Yeah going through IVF falls more on the woman but I take it as a blessing now. This board has so many great woman who have gone through IVF that it became a great place to talk to other bees and get help and tips and tricks. Your world is spinning but it’ll get better. As the bee mentioned above, they should do a repeat test to make sure it wasn’t a one off. Hang in there. You’re not a lone.

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

It isn’t just hot tubes or baths; make sure your Dh doesn’t use a laptop on his lap. They get far warmer than people think. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I have no advice on improving counts or quality, my husband’s numbers were worse.  Agreed that repeat numbers can vary greatly though, so if he’s up for making some lifestyle changes and taking supplements, could be worth a try for a few months.

Like you, we got the same feedback, IVF (with ICSI & PGS testing) or bust.  It definitely took us both a minute to settle into that reality, though I also have PCOS, so I think it was easier to process that we both needed ‘fixing’.  Fortunately we had fairly decent insurance coverage and didn’t have to stress/save for costs, so once we came to terms with it we jumped in.  We had a good retrieval in December, did our first transfer in February and tomorrow I’ll be 9 weeks pregnant with that first embryo.  Obviously we couldn’t have predicted that we’d be successful, or that it would happen relatively quickly, but in hindsight I’m almost grateful that it was such a clear-cut diagnosis.  If his counts had been medium-bad, and if my cycles had been closer to regular, we likely would have slowly worked through a bunch of other treatment options first.  I suppose those theoretically could have worked as well, but if not would have just wasted more time, money and caused a lot more emotional turmoil.

Take some time to process, but, IMO at least, IVF is certainly not the end of the world!    

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m five weeks away from my due date for my second IVF baby. My first one is an amazing two year old. Just wanted to let you know that if IVF is a road you’ll need to go down, it’s totally worth it! 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Equine_Breeder :  If IVF isn’t an option, has he tried supplements or anything to try to improve sperm quality?  I had my husband on Fertilaid as a precaution because his medication can have a major impact on sperm quality.

I’m really sorry to hear this, dear 🙁

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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Equine_Breeder :  if ivf isn’t an option, maybe your husband will be interested in doing some lifestyle changes to see if things can improve. And I certainly wouldn’t look at it as you were pregnant once and that’s the only chance you’ll get.  

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Please don’t hate me for this but from your avatar pic your husband I presume is quite overweight. Male obesity has horrible effects on sperm count and quality. Perhaps a lifestyle change, weight loss, seeing a nutritionist and using supplements can help his sperm quality and count, therefore giving you a much better chance of conceiving naturally. I don’t mean this to offend and I know it can be hard to make these changes. Best of luck.

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I am so sorry – I know what it feels like to lose hope like this. When we first found out IVF (after multiples years of trying + IUIs) was a necessity for us, there was no way we could afford it, so we had to stop. For totally unrelated reasons, my husband went back to school and changed jobs and now we have IVF coverage.

However, in the intervening time, I spent a lot of time trying to reconcile myself to not having children and looking ahead to what our life would look like. If you know IVF isn’t going to be an option, let yourself feel the pain and mourn. Let yourself be sad (though remember your husband is likely going to be blaming himself, so be compassionate). 

I was in a hard place for awhile and cried too many tears (alone and with my husband), but over time, I started making plans for our future together – trips, hobbies, etc. It started to hurt less and by the time we found out we had a chance to try IVF, I had found some peace. I think you will too, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.

Resolve was a great resource for me during this time. Also, I don’t want to give you false hope, but there are some grants out there for familiies who cannot afford IVF. I know there were even some for my clinic specifically, so there might be ones for yours too.

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Equine_Breeder :  That is so incredibly disheartening… I’m hoping you can prove her wrong.  

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Have you looked at the financial resources on resolve.org? It’s the national infertility association. I have 2 ivf children. We wiped out our savings and lived paycheck to check working to conceive #1. And that was with purchasing secondary insurance under Obamacare to help use pay for our 3rd iui and 2 fresh Ivfs. I get financial part is tough.  

keep doing your research, one of the girls in my ivf birth group from my son, lost her siser unexpectedly, her sister was also in the process of going through ivf. My friend started a foundation in her sister’s name to fund ivf for one family every year. 

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