(Closed) Bad, shocking breakup with almost-FI after 4 years. Devastated.

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m sorry, not sure if I read right. You guys are 15 and 23? 

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

i am so sorry you are going through this 🙁  it sounds like he just isn’t ready.

23 and 15 and you were together for 4 years?  so that would make one of you 11 when you started dating?  or maybe that was a typo?

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Friends family & therapy are what you need now. I don’t know how you’re not sick and angry! The idea of my person being intimate with someone else makes me forget every good quality. You will be just fine but it will be painful for a little while. Reach out to all your people a lot. 

Im so sorry this happened 🙁

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’m hoping thats supposed to say 23 and 25.

Either way I’m sorry your relationship ended the way it did, but at least you haven’t wasted money on a wedding ect.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@asscherlover:  Yeah, she mentions in a different post that they are both grad students. So unless one of them is a kid genius, I think it was just a typo.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

You dodged a bullet. Do your best to move on from this jerk. He will cheat again. Hugs and good luck!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

This sucks. I doubt there anything I can see to make it better. All I can say is one day you hopefully will look back and be happy it happened now and not after you been married with a few kids.

I wonder if he had cold feet or something and instead of putting his big boy panties on and speaking to you about it, he did it this way.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Oh move on for sure. You can do better!

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m sorry it happened to you, but at least you know now and can move on before you’re bound together in a marriage.  He cheated on you, end of story.  Get a guy who treats you how you deserve!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Ok here it is I’m going to say it- You are only 23, go out and have fun and forget about serious talk of home schooling children for the time being. You say we were happy etc, well it seems like you were and he wasn’t. 

Same thing happened me, only difference was he actually slept with other women and then he married one of them. I didn’t see it at the time, but he did me a massive favour and now I’m with a guy who I want to marry and he wants me in the same way and I’m expecting our first baby. I’m glad things didn’t get any further with Mr sleep-around, I wouldn’t be where I am now. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Look at it this way, at least he didn’t string you along all the while you two were long distance. At least you’ve found out that he has no loyalty and values your relationship so little BEFORE you invest any more time.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If he couldn’t last 3 weeks with you gone on vacation without cheating on you, there’s no way he would have lasted in an 8 month LDR without cheating.  There are too many men out there who don’t cheat for you to spend your life with, no need to waste any more time on this one.

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