Bad Start for Guest List/Invites

posted 6 months ago in Guests
Post # 2
7395 posts
Busy Beekeeper

Wow that’s quite a bit! 

We only had 1 major issue…We let my ILs invite a bunch of people, as long as they were adults (19+). So they invited their family and adult cousins/neices etc. Apparently they forgot to invite one of the adult children, and the parents (cousins I believe?) were soooo offended they refused to come. Then the ILs are yelling at US for not noticing, when we had no idea who they wanted to invite and don’t even know all of these people lol. We had to reach out to this guy, get his address, send him a late invite, all for their entire family to just decline. 

Post # 4
1027 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

I don’t think it’s a big deal. I’ve received more than one invitation with the wrong last name: one based on FB (no, that’s my middle name), one based on my husband’s last name (I kept my own name, thanks), etc. My first name has been spelled wrong too. I do tend to point out the error so that they can correct it on the place cards, but I’m not going to get upset about a name on an envelope that’s just going straight into the recycling.

Post # 6
1863 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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SoonToBeMrsMay2020 :  It took me multiple tries to get an invite to one guest.  Turns out what my Mother-In-Law thought said Apartment 1 in her address book actually said Apartment I.  Stuff happens.

Post # 7
3454 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2021

I find it interesting that the guy was irritated about the last name mixup. It’s the type of thing married women who don’t change their names encounter all the time and 99% of the time let it just slide like water off a ducks back.

Post # 8
131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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sboom :  This. The last few weddings we’ve attended I’ve been invited as ‘mrs husbands-last-name’ even though I’ve kept my own name and haven’t exactly kept that fact a secret. One couple we know (even though they’re good friends and lovely people) seem really affected by my choice, talk about it all the time and make a point of calling me Mrs H-L-N to annoy me. Which it doesn’t… Like you said – water off a ducks back, they should probably be more worried about their own reactions to this than what I think of them calling me that! undecided

Post # 9
1543 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

I can commiserate on some of the name mix-ups. I accidentally addressed an invitation to one of my husband’s parents’ friends and used the last name of her ex-husband instead of her own last name. My mother-in-law had looked over the guest list and also didn’t notice it. I felt soooo dumb when she RSVPed and made note of her corrected name. Ugh.

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