(Closed) Bad Thank you Note Advice

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Hostess
18644 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, I didn’t think you were supposed to wait more than 2 months to make sure that people know you received their gift.  I wrote mine almost immediately because we were moving and I would probably have forgotten.

Post # 4
Member
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think its a year after the wedding to send a gift… not to send a note. But, no worries. It happens. Maybe include in your thank you note what an exciting/busy few months its been? 🙂

 

Post # 5
Member
255 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

If it makes you feel better, I just received a thank you note from a wedding I went to in early August!

Post # 6
Member
2856 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Try to not to be too hard on yourself. I got married in September and am trickling out the Thank You cards. My parent’s haven’t even gotten their card yet and I live 2 mins away. Right after the wedding we were in the process of moving and so many things that got in the way.  I think I may be sending out a bunch more this weekend…

By The Way — I haven’t received the ty card for a wedding I attending in April…

Post # 7
Member
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Sorry, nothing else you can do except impress the board with your wonderful work so she thinks, well, she works so hard, that’s why this thank you was late! 

What the advice should have read was that your guests have up to a year after the wedding to send you a gift – you get the notes out as soon as you can after you receive the gift, with delays b/c of planning or honeymoon expected.  So the only thank yous that go out a year later are for gifts that arrive a year later! (I’m ashamed to admit that I once set a really useful gift six months late…what she used until then I don’t know!)

Post # 8
Member
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

If it makes you feel any better we were date twins and I’m just getting around to writing my thank you cards too!! LOL. Relatives apparently have been calling my mother and bugging her for months about where their thank you card is. OH well, life got in the way– mine should be out by Friday too!

Post # 10
Member
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Well…now you know better so do better, try getting the cards out asap. Think of it this way, just like you were hard pressed and considered it rude that people didnt rsvp by the deadline…or maybe some never rsvp’d at all…..its the same. Your guests spent time and money…the least you can do is write a small note….and yeah life does get “busy”….but people make time for things that are important to them….so since your wedding was important for them to send a gift in this bad economy….go ahead and take a few moments out of each day to write the note.

Post # 11
Member
3285 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

awww, that is no fun to get embarrassed!  two months is usually the time frame, and we were pushing it here because we were waiting on wedding photos (pro) to include in our thank yous, but we are getting them out THIS WEEK so I am happy about that.  better late then never, anyway!  

Post # 12
Bee
13066 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2009 - Barr Mansion

There are no hard and fast rules.  And to be honest, I think it is pretty rude to ask someone if they received your gift b/c they didn’t get a thank you!  I wouldn’t feel bad at all.  Just send them out asap! 

Post # 13
Member
283 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I wen’t to a wedding in August and haven’t yet received a TY-note – but it’s a bit on the late side, I’d say. I really hope we’ll be able to do ours in about 2-3 months.

Post # 14
Member
342 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

I’d say just take the time to get them out as fast as possible.

And call me a stickler – but I would ask someone if they received my gift if they didn’t send a note many months later.  If I took the time to shop for/send a gift or attend a wedding (especially in this economy) why can’t they take the time to send a note acknowledging it?  As a bride didn’t you get upset when people didn’t RSVP after you sent them a stamped response card? 

Post # 15
Member
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

Live and learn.  It’s embarassing, but no one will remember this a month from now.  Follow your thank you note with a card on your boss’s birthday and you’ll be back in her good graces before you know it.

People make mistakes.  No need to beat yourself up over it.

Post # 16
Member
408 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

@AprilBride10


I totally agree and said the same! As Brides we have to be honest, we are very quick to call people rude and all kidns of other names for not rsvp’ing….and will even get upset if they don’t bring/send a gift…but we have the audacity to say…let them wait….6…9 months to a year and our excuse is “I’m got busy”. Now there are certain situations in life that can’t control, but be fair

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