Post # 1
In the past 24 hours I can think of 5 threads (off the top of my head) that were becoming snarky, rude, hurtful, and a bad representation of Wedding Bee. So I’ll be honest and admit I’ve flagged some comments. Sorry if that ticks anyone off but I’m tried of it. I didn’t come here to fight I came here to discuss my wedding, offer advice, and be a part of a community.
My question is:
How do you alert Mods about a thread and request that it be looked at? I tried searching it but I couldn’t find anything so I’ll assume I’m using the wrong keywords.
I’m tired of the junior high mindset and want the Bee to become what it used to be.
Post # 4
@lovesweetlove: +1000!! One of my threads turned sour for NO reason at all other than girls just looking for a reason to get angry and offended. I responded with the exact same thing – I come here to get excited with other brides about my wedding and to talk about the fun and crazy things that come with the planning. Not to have to put up with nasty girls who clearly have nothing better to do than start a fight over nothing. It’s so ridiculous that I almost cancelled my account this week. I feel you 🙂
Post # 5
Flag the original post. Mention in your comments that the thread itself is getting out of hand and you’re concerned. No need to try and play moderator – alert the mods and they’ll look at it. The hostesses do a fantastic job of moderation here.
Also, often because WB is one of the more friendly places on the internet, mild snark is confused for serious bashing when really it’s just people being sarcastic or honest. I mean, you can’t really expect to voice an opinion that’s an unpopular one and NOT be called out on it. *shrug* I don’t think the Bee should be expected to be rainbows and puppies pooping glitter at all times – long as the tone remains overwhelmingly respectful and positive (which, from my view as someone who’s been here regularly over a year, it does).
Post # 6
You already did it! 🙂 Flagging is the best way to alert the moderation team to threads that need to be reviewed.
You can read more about how flagging works here:
Post # 7
I have noticed such a different atmosphere around here lately. This site is very often what I go to just to step away from my little world and check out someone else’s. 99.9% of my lunch break at work is me on WB so I can just relax & take my mind off the job.
I hope people start to control their remarks!
Post # 8
I’ve noticed this in the past, but not so much recently. I only tend to get on later at night so maybe I’m just missing it.
Flagging is really all you can do unless you see a hostess or mod on and PM her. I tend to flag a lot as well (sorry ladies) because I want to help keep the integrity of this great community.
But just like anywhere else, this is the Internet. Try to remember that Bee’s that may come off as “snarky” may not have meant it that way because you can’t show emotion here.
Post # 9
Thanks for the information on how to flag a thread! Mods can’t be expected to see everything that goes on here so it’s nice to know how to do it correctly.
Post # 10
@lovesweetlove: +1,000 i hear you ive gotten in to a few situations where bees just want to get nasty for no reason. ive learned to just leave the threat and not comment back at all.
were here for support but people anr people where ever you go.
good for you!!!!
I flag crap like that too when i see it.
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Post # 13
Thank you for posting this…I literally went to start a thread about this same thing when I saw that you posted this. I come to this board for support and guidance about the most important day of my life not to argue over difference of opinions! I’m all for constructive criticism, but I think posts turn sour when people throw around negative words such as “stupid.” Hope we can get back to supporting each other, visiting this site is a highlight of my work day! 🙂
Post # 14
@lovesweetlove: +1000000!!! I just said on another thread that there is so much acrimony here lately, people seem like they are looking to fight, some Bees have reported being followed from thread to thread by the same members looking to keep the arguments going…it’s pathetic.
Like I said there, many times I want to post and just don’t because it’s not worth wondering who will take it wrong and attack and then I have to decide if it’s worth defending/explaining that’s not how I meant it, etc…very disappointing. All I want is to enjoy the site again! It was crucial to my planning last year but since a few months back it’s turned into a festering pit of nasty.
Post # 15
“Support” =/= “never disagreeing” or “validate terrible ideas” or “having to shoot rainbows and glitter out of your ass”
This is the internet, and people need to grow thicker skins, just like in real life.
“A festering pit of nasty”??????? Are you freaking kidding me? This is one of the most kindergarten-like sites on the internet!! The culture of “nice” here is like nothing I’ve ever seen – they even have a prohibition against being snarky. 99% of the internet is built on snark.
If you want to see someone really attacking someone else, you’re not going to find it here.
Post # 16
@oneofthesethings: believe me, I’ve been around the internet for enough years to have seen really nasty so I know it. I’m just saying, that there is a TON of needless bitchiness here, I just don’t understand why people feel the need to argue over everything…your response, case in point–why are you arguing that I feel it’s been nasty around here lately? My opinion, I’m entitled. Sorry you disagree.
And that “culture of being nice” is sorely lacking lately. Again, my opinion. Feel free to disagree but I still think what I think. I just don’t see the point in the way people are turning innocent threads into fights and pissing contests. Opinions…you know what they say–we all have them. Slogging through it all to get to the original topic is getting old.