Post # 1
So here is the problem: We picked out a ring and my boyfriend purchased it last week. He picked it up and put it away and was going to “suprise” me with it at some point over the next few months. We got a phone call last night saying that his brother had proposed to his girlfriend. Im so happy for them but now we dont know what to do. All of us have been dating over 5 years so it may look weird if we get engaged a month apart. I really want to get engaged and start planning the wedding but I dont want to step on anyones toes. Any advice?
Post # 3
You let your own relationship dictate when you get engaged, not what other people are doing. If you two are ready, then that is your answer. However, you should not announce yoru engagement at someone else’s big event, as that is toe stepping. I think that after 5 years of dating, no one is going to be surprised that you have taken the next step. Everyone should be happy for you! Pre-congratulations and best of luck!
Post # 4
Agree. Its your relationship, which is different from anyone else’s relationship. Don’t let it change your path!
Post # 5
Thank sall. I just feel a little sad because we have waited so long and it seemes a little messy 🙁
Post # 6
I know how you feel, my Fiance was all set to propose and then a week later his sister got engaged. We had no idea it was coming! It was a little disappointing because he didn’t want to propose so soon after her engagement. He did ask me two months later and she and the rest of the family seemed excited for us.
Post # 7
That happened to us too. We got engaged two months later.
Post # 8
I think he should go with the engagement plan as if nothing had happened. Otherwise, the families could be bugging you: “when is your turn” and then could think that he proposed because his brother did.