Post # 1
In the past few weeks I started feeling really confident that my boyfriend was getting into proposal mindset.
He would make lots of jokes about getting me a ring (in a way that made it clear it was definitely on his mind), was talking about like “wife fantasy” stuff (“I was thinking about how great it would be if I could support you” and dumb stuff like that), he was doing that “weirdly secretive” thing (like he told me he was talking to some friends about me and I asked him what they were saying and he got all “omg nothing, none of your business”) and just really being committed. He seemed super “marriage minded.” (Not to mention the “I want you to be mine forever” stuff he allllways says.)
Anyway, between yesterday and today I am totally back to thinking it could be YEARS still and that is driving me crazy.
He just moved into a new place, and gave me keys yesterday but made it very clear that they were just spare keys to his place that I can hold on to, not “my keys.”
Idk, that just seemed to be the opposite behavior I’d see from him if proposing were on his mind.
Post # 3
@laughs: men are weird, hes probably not gonna propose tomorrow or anything but it could be soon and hes trying to throw you off scent.
Post # 4
Umm depending on how long you’ve been together, that’s kind of mean! If I were you, I would be having a nice little chat about the key thing…
Post # 6
I would honestly not pay much attention to the key thing. It was just dumb on his part, I wouldn’t even bring it up. Shake it off and keep waiting I guess!
Post # 7
@laughs: I totally sympathise with having bad waiting days.. it really sucks sometimes! And it’s fair enough that you feel down about what he said about the keys but my advice would be not to read too much in to it.. boys say things without thinking about how we might interpret it, and about 99% of the time the way we interpret it is not even close to how they are actually feeling!
In certain situations we’ll never understand them and they’ll never understand us! I think all the other positive things he says about you sound much more indicative of the direction your relationship is heading 🙂
Post # 8
@arathella: I know, it felt kind of mean, but I don’t think he meant it in a mean way, I mean he gave me keys, and we both know they’re mine, he is just trying to cling on to like the tiniest bit of independence I think.
yeah I think so.
Post # 9
I think the whole thing is that he wants to feel like he has independence or whatever, which I think is a pretty typical guy thing.
Like, I’m sure other people have had similar experiences… after we started spending every night together he started saying things like “WE SPEND TOO MUCH TIME TOGETHER YOU NEED TO GIVE ME A NIGHT OFF” and at first I’d get hurt by it, but now I know that when he says that all I need to do is be like “okay, you’re right how about tonight or tomorrow?” and he’ll be like “ummm, maybe not this week” and that’s it.
I love him, I’ll just be patient. 🙂
Also didn’t help that he saw me looking at the Bee and wanted to “look at it together.” LOL, it was awkward, I just showed him some ring threads and tried to change the subject as quickly as possible.