- 5 years ago
- Wedding: August 2014
Update!! Late Friday night/Saturday morning, I posted about how upset and frustrated I was that my SO had apparently forgotten his promise that we would go ring shopping this weekend. (Post is here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/forgot-our-ring-shopping-date)
We were bickering about silly things on our way out the door to run errands, and when we finally got in the car, I burst into tears and told him I was upset that he hadn’t mentioned anything since Monday, and especially since one of the stores we were going to had awesome rings, but I didn’t want to look without having had a serious conversation about different stones and pricing. I also mentioned that I was upset that, in November, he had told me he would propose by my birthday– now in three weeks– because that was a date that HE had come up with all on his own, and yet he hasn’t looked at rings yet or had a serious conversation with me about them.
He has a hard time understanding why I don’t feel I can bring up these topics first, and I tried to explain to him that it often feels like I’m the only one bringing up the topic of engagement and our future. He reassured me that I am *not* the only one of the two of us who is excited about this next step. He said that he hadn’t forgotten, and he had planned on talking to me that night about rings and going ring shopping the next day.
The store with the rings ended up being the last errand of our day, and already half of the jewelry had been removed from their cases and locked up, but there was still a decent selection of rings to look at. There was no one around working behind the case, so I couldn’t try any on, but it was almost nice for our first ring-shopping experience to be so low-key, with no one else around. He was the one who took the iniative, grabbed my hand, and took me over to the cases. Instead of pointing out what I liked, I asked him what he liked/what he would pick out for me. He said, “well, I talked to someone about what you might like, and they said you like halo settings” (after more questions, I found out he had talked to my mom about a week ago, which makes me SOSOSO happy that he has been thinking about this and making steps toward it on his own). I asked him if he knew what that meant, and he said yes and pointed out to me which settings were halos, which made me extra happy because it meant he HAD done some research online. He also had excellent taste and a great eye for detail, based on the rings he pointed out to me, so that’s a relief.
That night, he came to me with his full attention and asked for me to tell him about the stone I am interested in. He listened for a long time, asked good questions, watched video/looked at pictures, etc. He heard my concerns and said he would do additional research on his own to make sure that’s the right choice for us. I asked him about a budget he had thought about, and he gave me a number that is about 3x higher than what we would be looking at for the most expensive non-diamond stone I like, and so he was very excited by that =)!
I just hope that he doesn’t feel like he has to propose by my birthday just because I mentioned that when I was upset… that would seem a little rushed…
Last night, he said that, if I can get out of work early enough tonight, he would like to go check out some different styles/settings and try some on. I’m so excited! He is finally seeming really interested and taking the initiative! I am so in love with him. He is so good to me and always– after I can work up the guts to tell him how I’m really feeling– makes me feel so loved and secure.