Post # 16
I think you just need to let this go. 2 months after your wedding, stop dwelling on the fact that your Brother-In-Law was kinda a jerk to talk to. Bragging about his new job isn’t super offensive. It’s not like he was making inappropriate jokes or anything really offensive to your guests.
People probably were like “oh, he’s kinda rude…anyways, lets go dance”.
Post # 17
beethree : It could be toxic if he’s THAT narcissitic. If he’s leaving his wife to awkwardly stand there in public, it probably isn’t much healthier behind closed doors. This is all based off of the little bit we know, though. Maybe he’s just insecure. It’s annoying but I wouldn’t let a douche ruin my wedding day that was otherwise great! It reflects on him more than it does on you..
Post # 18
I wouldn’t focus on it. Focus on the positive things in your wedding.
Post # 19
My brother displays similar behavior at times. He has Asperger’s Syndrome (high-functioning autism spectrum disorder), so he isn’t trying to be rude– his life is going well and he wants people to know. I wouldn’t say it is toxic behavior although it can be annoying at times.
It sounds like it was irritating and I’m sorry it happened, but I think the only thing you can do is forget about it. Some people just have trouble socializing well.
Post # 20
It not really ‘bad wedding behaviour’ , it’s just boring behaviour . I think you are probably feeling a bit anticlimactic after all the planning and lovely day etc and now it’s just ordinary life again so you are getting abit obsessive .
Do let it drop, it’s so umimportant.
Post # 21
Now that you’ve noticed he does this it’s probably going to drive you nuts whenever you see him. You might want to come up with a plan for how you’re going to deal with it moving forward because he’s not likely to change and you don’t want to end up so fixated on him that you can’t enjoy gatherings because of his presence.
Post # 22
Thank you everyone for the helpful input. It helped me put my feelings in check about this.
Our wedding was not a large affair but it was lovely and I wouldn’t change a thing. I suppose I felt like his comments were some how a judgement on our wedding. Maybe even a judgement on our income and lifestyle.
I guess that anyone who boasts that much is probably incredibly insecure and needs constant validation. So perhaps it is something he does in social situations where he feels as though he needs assert his status… Or maybe he’s just a very boring person and has nothing more interesting to talk about.
I’m going to just try to get over it. Maybe I’m just looking for a problem where there isn’t one. Thanks again.
Post # 23
Truth is… every wedding is going to have THAT guy/girl. Seems inevitable.
Does not even have to be a wedding. So be happy and swerve because it happens everywhere.