(Closed) Bad Weekend, Need To Vent

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2010

First, it sounds like some of this is stress about the upcoming wedding. 3 weeks before the wedding is probably not he best time to evaluate the stress level in a relationship. If it has been this way for some time, that’s a red flag, but I think we can all agree that stress and bickering picks up a bit just before any big event.

Things like you overcooking cupcakes and him saying they taste bad are NOT A BIG DEAL. They probably did taste bad, and he was being honest. Unless he spit them out and threw one at your head, I think you’re overreacting.

Also, I would get pissed at Darling Husband if he ran over my heals at the store, so I’m with your Darling Husband on that front. There’s just no excuse for being that careless.

Next, it sounds like you two need to have better communication, especially when it comes to housework. It sound like you need to have a conversation about expectations around the house and get on the same page ASAP. What are you definitions of clean vs. messy? How often are things expected to be cleaned and by who? 

Lastly, I couldn’t really follow the ornament argument. Why were they broken and dusty to begin with? Why did you throw them out without talking to him, and if he was taking them to the garbage, why would it matter if they got more broken? That one is just a head scratcher. But I will say this, Darling Husband has some collectables that are precious to him, and I have a strict “I don’t touch those” policy. Meaning I don’t clean, move, lift, or throw away. Those are his responsibility, and if they’re dusty or broken, it’s on him.

Post # 5
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9887 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@emricmacy:  ((HUGS))  Sounds like both of you are stressed out!

Try to remember that you’re a team and you two need to work together.  Give yourselves a “fun break” and go out and do something you both enjoy, just for a little while.  Tell him you need a romantic date night and put all the stress on hold for little bit.  You can get back to it later, lol.:)

 

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